Preparing Yourself to Talk to Your Child about Porn

Preparing Yourself to Talk to Your Child about Porn

By Tawny Redford

What can you do to prepare yourself to talk to your child about porn?

First parents must realize that porn is a threat not in the future, but today!

  • Come to terms with how porn is breaking down our society’s moral compass and that no one is exempt from this danger, not even you.
  • We need to accept the fact that our children will see porn eventually and that we can’t shield their innocence forever. (As much as we wish we could!)
  • “Nearly 80 percent of unwanted exposure to pornography is taking place in the home (79 percent occurs in the home; 9 percent occurs at school; 7 percent other/unknown; 5 percent at a friend’s home).” (Pornography Statistics, 2009)

As parents, we must educate ourselves on porn and how it can manifest in our children’s lives before trying to put it into ‘Leman’s’ terms for them.

  • Be informed about all forms of technology and social influences, (no matter how ‘clean’ they appear).

A recent poll was done and found that most children ‘stumbled’ upon pornographic material on the internet by:

  • A mistaken link that came up as a result of an innocent word search (40 percent)
  • Clicking on a link in another site (17 percent)
  • A pop-up (14 percent)
  • A misspelled web address (12 percent)
  • Pictures involving animals or other strange things (10 percent) (Pornography Statistics, 2009)
  • If we ‘school’ ourselves in how porn will most likely ‘pop’ up in our children’s life then we will have more power in our words when explaining the dangers to them.

Let the Harmful effects of porn drive you to action!

  • We wouldn’t think twice about protecting our children from drugs we must treat the threat of porn the same.
  • Just like a drug abuser, the pornography user is caught in a vicious cycle, always chasing the next “high” only to find they feel worse about themselves and life in general.
  • Parents shouldn’t be concerned about being too protective when it comes to protecting your child from porn.

If you aren’t your children’s advocate who is going to be? After all, with all the people who will talk to your kids about porn, shouldn’t you be the first?

Tawny Redford is a wife and mother of two children. She has a B.A. from Sacramento State University and is passionate about issues involving childhood development. She chooses to use her opinionative nature to empower others instead of drive her husband crazy.

Sources:

Pornography Statistics. (2009, January 1). Retrieved January 1, 2015, from http://www.internetsafety101.org/Pornographystatistics.html

Compulsive pornography users shows the same brain activity as alcoholics and drug addicts. (2013, September 22). Retrieved January 28, 2015, from http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2428861/Porn-addicts-brain-activity-alcoholics-drug-addicts.html

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