Safe and Savvy: The Best Internet and Phone Filters of 2018

Safe and Savvy: The Best Internet and Phone Filters of 2018

 

By Courtney Cagle

The internet is a wonderful and useful tool, but it can also be dangerous. As parents, it’s important to teach your children about the wonders available on the internet AND the dangers. Filters help to protect our kids in a world where the porn industry, social media, and google are watching our kids and targeting them based on their browsing habits. However, these filters can’t replace conversations about pornography, online safety, social media, and media literacy. Both are important to protect and educate children.

Recently, I was doing a project for one of my classes where I had to find pictures of women who were of various ethnicities. I googled “Asian women” and to my surprise, porn came up–front and center. I was just trying to do a school project and I innocently searched for a picture of Asian women. I called my husband in and told him to put as many filters on my computer as possible because I definitely don’t want porn showing up on my computer. We soon realized there are many great filters out there that parents can use to make sure their children don’t accidentally stumble upon porn or straight up search for it. Filtering software and routers do more than just block pornography and this varies with each system.

Free Filtering Software:

K9 Web Protection – K9 is a great filtering software that is available for free. It is small and easy to install. It blocks websites in more than 70 categories and offers a SafeSearch feature. You can also set time restrictions, customize what is allowed and blocked, generate reports, and categorize new adult content and sites in real time. K9 offers the best parental controls and filters for a free software. It is available for PC and Mac (K9 Web Protection Features).

Qustodio – This is a browser-based filtering software that is great for filtering pornography, blocking websites, preventing cyberbullying, monitoring social media, and tracking smartphones. Help and tech support are not wonderful, but if you don’t think you’ll be needing much tech support, you should be fine. It is available for PC, Mac, Android and iOS devices. The basic version is available free, but you can also upgrade to a more advanced version for a fee (Johnston, 2018), (Marshall & Ellis, 2018).  

KidLogger – This software tracks what your children type, the website they have visited, programs they use, and screenshots they take. You choose what to monitor and can change it depending on the age of your child. This software only works on one device  (Marshall & Ellis, 2018).

Filtering Softwares Available For Purchase:

Net Nanny – This filtering system was rated #1 on TopTenReviews. It filters pornography, questionable chat rooms, and hate sites. You can also create a custom whitelist and blacklist that override the automated filter. Net Nanny is easy to use and walks you through installation step-by-step. It is cloud-based and activity logs can be pulled up from any device. If you have any problems, they have extensive help and support networks available. Social media monitoring is not included in the basic service, but is available with the purchase of Net Nanny Social. Overall, Net Nanny has the most comprehensive and effective internet safety tools. It is available for PC, Mac, Android, and iOS devices (Johnston, 2018).

McAfee – Many know this as an anti-virus software, but they also have filtering services. McAfee offers a website blocker, pornography filter, cyberbullying protector, and social media monitor, complete with near-comprehensive support options and user-friendly software . If you prefer to monitor your child’s chat and messaging activity rather than block sites, you can read conversations or save them for later. This software will send you text messages if there are questionable websites accessed. It is available for PC, Mac, Android, and iOS devices (Johnston, 2018).

Witigo – A filtering software that allows parents to block content in 27 categories, including pornography and violence. It blocks chat and messenger programs including social media and gaming network chats. It is a tricky program to install, but once installed, it’s easy to use. It has a cloud-based and local filtering system. You can download it to monitor one PC or you can choose the online version to filter and monitor several devices, like phones. There is a whitelist that enables you to allow a website it may have filtered out. It is also has a blacklist where you can add websites you want to be blocked if they are deemed appropriate and you think otherwise. Witigo redirects kids to a kid-friendly sites rather than sending an alert that a site has been blocked,  which causes them less frustration and creates a more enjoyable experience (Johnston, 2018).

Norton Family – This is a great filtering software for pornography, website blocking, and monitoring social media activity. However, it doesn’t monitor online chat conversations or webcam sessions, like some others do. Norton uses a browser-based platform and enables parents to check their child’s activity from any computer. Installation has to be performed on the device itself and is user-friendly. This software supports Windows and Android devices, but is not available for iOS mobile devices or Mac computers (Johnston, 2018).

Surfie by PureSight – Surfie offers social media monitoring, website filtering, chat room filtering, time control, and file sharing controls. You can put in specific keywords that you want to monitor in chat rooms and once they are used, it will send you a notification. You can also block contacts from messaging your children, which can help prevent cyberbullying. Surfie is easy-to-use and simple to set up. You can also opt in to email alerts and receive comprehensive reports of all activity online. It is available for PC, Mac, Android, and iOS devices (Johnston, 2018).

Covenant Eyes – This is a great software that gives every user an individual username to tailor it to their needs. A report is available for each device that the software is installed on making sure that everyone has internet accountability. Covenant Eyes offers customizable filtering to fit the needs of every family member. It also allows for the internet to be inaccessible at certain times of the day (Family Protection).

Free Filter at a Router Level:

OpenDNS Family Shield –  This service has automatic parental control tools that block domains under headings that you chose. OpenDNS works on PCs, mobile devices, and your network router. If you filter at the router level, all devices on the network will benefit (Marshall & Ellis, 2018).

Filtering at a Router Level For Purchase:

Circle With Disney – (EEK’s favorite choice–no we do not receive any payment for saying so.) This device connects to your network and has parental controls to filter the whole network. After you purchase the hardware, you download an app and follow the simple set-up instructions. The filter is controlled through this app once it is all set up. With Circle, you control which devices have access to the internet and at what time. The internet can be paused on a certain device or on the whole network. Filters can be customized based on the age of each family member. Circle is a great device for filtering the whole network (Best Parental Control Router, 2018).  

KoalaSafe – This is an easy-to-use device that connects to your existing network. It comes with an app that allows you to access the filter and parental controls. KoalaSafe offers time limits and internet restrictions. You can also monitor apps and websites that have been viewed or accessed. This is a great option for those who have a router and want to connect to the existing network (Best Parental Control Router, 2018).

These filtering systems will help to keep your children safe, but only as a first defense. Nothing can replace the power of conversation with your kids about the dangers of the internet and about pornography. For tips on how to start the conversation, check out our book, How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography.

It’s important to help your children understand that technology can be useful and good as well. To teach your kids how to use technology for good, check out Noah’s New Phone: A Story About Using Technology for Good.

Available in paperback or Kindle!

 

Courtney is a senior at Brigham Young University-Idaho graduating in Marriage and Family Studies. She loves kids and wants to help create a safe environment for all children to learn and grow.

 

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Citations:

(2018, January 03). Best Parental Control Router 2018 – Top Rated. Reviewed And Compared. Retrieved May 31, 2018, from http://bestwirelessroutersnow.com/best-parental-control-router/

Family Protection | Internet Safety Software. (n.d.). Retrieved June 8, 2018, from http://www.covenanteyes.com/family/

Johnston, N. (2018, February 04). The Best Internet Filter Software of 2018. Retrieved May 31, 2018, from http://www.toptenreviews.com/software/security/best-internet-filter-software/

Marshall, C., & Ellis, C. (2018, May 22). The best free parental control software 2018. Retrieved May 31, 2018, from https://www.techradar.com/news/the-best-free-parental-control-software

Symantec Corporation. (2010). K9 Web Protection. Retrieved May 31, 2018, from http://www1.k9webprotection.com/

 

Conectando Familias a través de Prácticas Diarias

Conectando Familias a través de Prácticas Diarias

 

Por Jenny Webb, MA

Esto es lo que pasa con la crianza de los hijos: a menudo quiero ir a lo grande o irme a casa. Quiero hacer grandes gestos tan grandes que aseguren que mis hijos sepan que son amados e importantes, no solo hoy, sino todos los días por el resto de sus vidas. Quiero cocinar una cena tan increíble que nadie tenga hambre por el resto de la semana. Quiero ganar un bono en el trabajo tan grande que pueda dejar mi trabajo mañana y llevarnos a Disneyland por un mes.

Usted pudo haber notado el error en mi lógica.

En la mayoría de las circunstancias, la crianza de los hijos no funciona de esa manera; no se puede “llenar” a su familia a través de un solo gran gesto. Todavía necesitarán su amor, aliento y apoyo (¡y comida!) Mañana. Y el día siguiente después de eso. Y el día siguiente después de eso.

Pero la vida puede estar ocupada y los horarios pueden llenarse. Es fácil caer en la trampa de jugar al “ponerse al día” de los padres ofreciendo una recompensa futura por la postergación actual: “Oh, chicos, no vamos a poder cenar juntos toda esta semana. qué: Les invitaré a ver una película los sábados para compensarlo. ¡De acuerdo! ¡Y pueden tomar palomitas de maíz! ¡Bien! ¡Ahora rápido, salgan de aquí y limpien sus habitaciones antes de la escuela! “

Hmm.

Hago esto demasiado.

Así que este año, me estoy enfocando en encontrar “momentos de prácticas” diarias, pequeños momentos en los que puedo conectarme con mis hijos de una manera significativa desarrollando un nuevo patrón en mi comportamiento. Si bien eventos más grandes como excursiones o vacaciones pueden brindar oportunidades maravillosas para conectarse con nuestras familias, esa conexión a menudo ocurre porque estamos saliendo de nuestra rutina diaria. Lo que busco son maneras de fomentar la conexión en nuestra rutina diaria porque, seamos sinceros: ahí es donde pasamos una gran cantidad de nuestro tiempo juntos.

10 ideas para prácticas familiares
Estos momentos de prácticas diarias no tienen que ser grandes. De hecho, son más efectivos si son simples, flexibles y razonablemente consistentes.

1) Mejor y peor
En nuestra cena (o durante nuestra rutina de irse a la cama si ha sido uno de esos días), tomamos 2-3 minutos para dar la vuelta y decir nuestros “mejores y peores” momentos del día. Es simple y breve, pero puede ofrecer ideas sobre momentos que de otra forma no escucharíamos en las vidas de los demás.

2) Expresar gratitud
A la hora de dormir, especialmente cuando nuestros niños son más pequeños, nos gusta pedirles que nombren tres cosas que agradecieron ese día. Cuando están acurrucados en sus mantas y listos para quedarse dormidos, un enfoque positivo en la gratitud los ayuda a sentirse seguros y bendecidos.

3) Paseos familiares
Los fines de semana tienen su propio ritmo, ocupado con eventos deportivos y fiestas de cumpleaños, seguro, pero también (¡con suerte!) Un poco más de tiempo para hacer algo juntos, como caminar alrededor de la cuadra después de la cena del domingo.

4) Hola, ¡adiós!
¿Cómo se saludan? ¿Cómo se dicen adiós el uno al otro? Estos momentos son tan rápidos y comunes que es fácil pasar por alto su potencial de conexión. Pero establecer algún tipo de patrón para su familia es una manera fácil de ayudar a los niños a sentir que son parte de algo especial y que pertenecen juntos.

5) hacer una danza feliz
Cuando termina la cena y nadie quiere lavar los platos, a menudo hacemos un trato: platos después de una fiesta de baile familiar. ¡No es tan difícil como suena! Para nosotros, una fiesta de baile familiar significa encender una canción especial (en este momento, es “Uptown Funk”) y luego bailar juntos como lunáticos en la cocina. Eso es. Tres minutos, termina la canción, nos reímos y pasamos a nuestras tareas.

6) Estira tu rutina matutina
Cuando mi hija de once años me pidió que me despertara con ella todas las mañanas para hacer diez minutos de pilates, no me emocionó. Realmente me gusta dormir, y no soy una persona madrugadora. Pero solo hacer ese compromiso de estar allí, juntos, durante esos diez minutos nos da un buen momento juntas cada día.

7) Cómelo
Todos sabemos que las comidas familiares pueden ser un momento diario importante y proporcionan un entorno para conversar y conectarse. Pero otros momentos relacionados con nuestras comidas también pueden conectarnos. Tal vez espolvorea azúcar en la avena de la mañana con la forma de una sonrisa. Tal vez su familia siempre tiene panqueques el sábado … la noche. Tal vez solo cortas las cortezas de sus sándwiches. Sea lo que sea, ayúdelos a darse cuenta de que es algo que hace que su familia sea especial, juntos.

8) Escribirlo
Una nota escrita en su lonchera los miércoles. Un texto antes de su gran juego. Un tablero de mensajes familiar en la cocina con espacio para mensajes adicionales de “Te amo”. Déles un apodo o inventen una frase de aprobación tonta (“amor, tu papá, también conocido como The Awesome”). Solo hágales saber que son amados.

9) ¡Salud!
¿Cómo reconoces el éxito como una familia? Si alguien tiene una gran noticia, invente una porra simple de la familia para celebrar. (La nuestra es ridícula: “Oh, sí, oh sí, somos los Webb, somos increíbles, ¡oh sí, vamos Webbs!” ¿Ven? No es una gran ovación, pero a los niños les encanta). O, celebran en la cena de vidrios tintineantes en una celebración “¡salud!” Mis hijos siempre piden por hacer eso.

10) Te amo, lo sé
Inventa pequeñas formas de decir “Te amo” y “Te amo a ti también” que funcionan para tu familia. Puede ser una frase cursi (usamos “Te amo más que la mantequilla de maní”), o un simple gesto (mi hija prefiere hacer un corazón con sus manos y lo ama cuando hacemos lo mismo). O simplemente un apretón de manos: tres veces para “te amo” y cuatro veces para “te amo también”.

Probablemente ya estés haciendo muchas de estas cosas. O tal vez no; tal vez diferentes ideas funcionen mejor para su cultura y patrones familiares. El punto aquí no es tanto lo que estamos haciendo, sino más bien reconocer cuando lo estamos haciendo. Pequeños momentos pueden brindarle conexión al crear un sentido de identidad y comunidad dentro de su familia. Encuentre esos momentos de prácticas diarios y comprométase conscientemente con las personas que ama. Claro, habrá grandes gestos en algún lugar a lo largo de la línea, ¡pero disfrutemos también de nuestras “vidas regulares” juntas!

Para obtener más ideas geniales sobre cómo conectarse con sus hijos, consulte 30 Days to a Stronger Child, disponible en Amazon. El libro incluye grandes preguntas, lecciones y desafíos para ayudar a sus hijos a aprender a llenar sus “cuentas” emocionales, intelectuales, sociales, físicas y espirituales. Algunos de los temas incluyen: respeto, responsabilidad, autoconversación positiva, empatía, adicción, gratitud , pensamiento crítico y muchos más: 30 lecciones en total.

 


Jenny Webb es una editora y especialista en producción de publicaciones que ha trabajado en la industria desde 2002. Se graduó de la Universidad Brigham Young con una maestría en literatura comparada y ha trabajado con una variedad de clientes que van desde revistas académicas internacionales hasta autores independientes de ciencia ficción. Nacida y criada en Bellevue, Washington, actualmente vive en Huntsville, Alabama, con su esposo, Nick, y sus dos hijos.

 

20 maneras de felicitar a un niño, que no tienen nada que ver con la apariencia

20 maneras de felicitar a un niño, que no tienen nada que ver con la apariencia

 

Por Amanda Grossman-Scott

¿Alguna vez te encuentras mirando a un niño con tanta adoración y todo lo que puedes pensar es decir: “¡Eres tan lindo!”? Es importante que los niños en tu vida sepan que los ves y los valoras por algo más que la apariencia; después de todo, la apariencia no es un logro. El punto es “reconocer que la autoestima realmente, realmente es el resultado del logro: en el aula, en el campo, en el hogar …” (Drexler, 2012).

Puede ser difícil, pero no imposible, notar formas más meritorias de felicitar a un niño y ayudar a aumentar la confianza en sí mismo.

Aquí hay 20 maneras de felicitar a un niño, ¡que no tienen nada que ver con la apariencia!

Dile lo creativa que es cuando inventa una historia.
Dile cuán amable es cuando muestra cómo se preocupa por los demás.
Dile cuán responsable ella es cuando cuida de sí misma, de los demás o de los juguetes.
Dile que es muy artístico cuando te muestra un dibujo.
Cuéntale lo feliz que te hace pasar tiempo con ella.
Dile que es un buen amigo / hijo / hermano.
Dile que es aventurera cuando describe su día.
Dile que es valiente cuando hace algo que teme intentar.
Dile cuán trabajadora es cuando logra un objetivo.
Dile que le da los mejores abrazos cuando lo saludas.
Dile que es inteligente cuando se da cuenta de algo.
Dile que es inteligente cuando resuelve un enigma.
Dile que tiene una risa maravillosa.
Dile que es un tesoro cuando hablas de cosas invaluables.
Dile que es valiente cuando defiende a los demás.
Dile lo talentoso que es cuando te canta una canción.
Dile que ella es una gran líder cuando toma la iniciativa.
Dile que es confiable cuando cumple una promesa.
Dile que es amable cuando usa sus modales.
Dile que es un héroe cuando se enfrenta a un matón.


Es fácil decirle a una niña que es bonita o a un niño que es fuerte. Ver los éxitos reales de su hijo es un punto de referencia de la crianza atenta. Ser un padre más creativo requiere práctica y perseverancia. Esté atento a su esfuerzo por mantener a flote la confianza de su hijo y su ingenio beneficiará a su hijo a largo plazo.


Citaciones:

Drexler, P. (2012, 17 de agosto). La clave para criar niños seguros? Deja de felicitarlos! Consultado el 18 de agosto de 2014, en http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/our-gender-ourself/201208/the-key-raising-confident-kids-stop-complimenting-them

Is Your Teenager a Fake? Four Steps to Creating Authenticity On and Off Social Media

Is Your Teenager a Fake?   Four Steps to Creating Authenticity On and Off Social Media

By Haley Hawks

 

When I was twelve years old I spent much of my time reading. I loved it, and I loved to share it with others. But the kids my age didn’t read the same books I was reading so I searched out individuals to speak with on the internet. I was engrossed in these online relationships. The people that I spoke with shared my thoughts, liked hearing what I was thinking and I thought they were my true friends. The problem with this was that I had never met most of these people, and to this day still haven’t.

It is a common pitfall to crave validation online, but we should try to avoid letting our children learn how to crave this fake communication. Getting a lot of ‘likes,’ or ‘comments,’ doesn’t truly make a person more likeable, nor does it make anyone more authentic. What we must teach our children is that beauty is personal, and must be found within our true selves which enables us to show our own authenticity with interactions on and off social media.

How should we approach this topic of authenticity on the internet as well as with our face-to-face interactions?

Step One: Be Driven By An Inner Conscious

Becoming authentic is an individual mission, since each person has their own way of being human, and consequently what is authentic will be different for each individual,” (Klosowski, 2015). Finding what drives YOUR desires is what matters. People often post exaggerations or even lies about their lives on social media, showing a perfectly filtered life, pretending that everything is always fun and beautiful in their lives, or proclaiming beliefs that they only mildly subscribe to. Teach your child that this is the time and the place to show who you really are, instead of displaying a fake version of yourself.

The best way to show true thoughts is to understand them yourself. Every post, tweet, or photo should promote who you are and what you believe. If you love to play that piano, craft a post showing that love. Be thoughtful and deliberate. Everything that is shared can make an impact that you would never expect.  

Step Two: Love Unique Characteristics

Have you ever met a person that was exactly like you, in every way? Of course not. Although outside influences can change our behavior, what we think on the inside is what makes us who we individually are. We all have those friends that post long political posts, or religiously oriented posts that can seem a little bit in your face. But the point of social media is not to belittle or condemn or annoy. It is there to promote more social closeness, to keep you in the loop with friends, to share ideas and to learn from one another. It can show amazing spiritual or physical accomplishments. Be part of the journey that promotes the goodness of the world by inspiring others with the story of your adventure.  

You could post:

  • The last time you overcame a personal battle
  • A beautiful image and how it makes you feel
  • A picture of you and a close friend with a caption that shows the world someone else’s goodness

Step Three: Take Responsibility for Your Actions

Social media accounts are not like a journal. They are not there to rant, to mock or to complain. Or at least they shouldn’t be. Every interaction on social media is real. A person with a heartbeat sits somewhere reading and reacting to what is being posted. That it why it is so important for each child to take personal responsibility for their own social media relationships. From childhood on, we teach children that words have power. Well-written words have power too. A powerful way to explain this is by giving your child a heartfelt note.

Ask them to read it, and think about the words inside.

  • Do they make them feel good?
  • Do they make them feel loved?

It is the same with social media. The words that we post make people feel, and we want to make people feel good.

Step Four: Don’t Suppress Creativity

“One of the most common diseases of humanity is a tendency to generalize and standardize,” (P, 1960). Suppressing a child’s desire to paint, to run, to read, whatever it may be, creates a lack of genuineness in their everyday interactions. It tells them that their desires are wrong. When you suppress creativity you are encouraging your child to follow the expectations that society dictates. However, when you encourage someone to be true to themselves in all places, they are more likely to find worth in themselves because they create self mastery, and find fulfillment in their personal lives.This goes right along with your child’s online presence. If you help them find genuine interests, and encourage those interests, it will be easier to be more authentic online because they will be more authentic offline too.

One of the best ways to foster creativity is to help your child find a passion with the arts.

  • Do they like to read? If so, why do they like it?
  • What do the words mean to them?
  • Why should they mean anything at all, if they are simply ink scribbled on a page?

Or maybe your child likes to paint. This is a wonderful outlet. Not only does it enable a child to do something they like; it also allows them to express their feelings. Plus it is an awesome thing to share on social media!

In short, teach authenticity in everyday interactions and those will translate into healthy social media relationships. Need more tips on helping your child be an authentic digital citizen? Check out some of our helpful lessons to work through this together.

Also check out our new children’s book on using tech for good, Noah’s New Phone. Join Noah as he learns how his actions with technology can cause a ripple effect for everyone around him–for good or for bad. We have the power to choose!

Available in paperback or Kindle!

Haley Hawks has a Bachelors of Science in Marriage and Family Studies from Brigham Young University-Idaho. . She is passionate about learning, especially when it comes to relationships and family life. She hopes to one day be able to educate on a world-wide setting in regards to promoting goodness in the family, and destroying ideals that hurt society.

 

There are affiliate links in the blog post. When you use them to make purchases, we thank you for supporting Educate and Empower Kids!

Citations:

Klosowski, T. (2015, April 16). How to Discover Your “Authentic” Self and Live the Life You Really Want. Retrieved October 12, 2017, from https://lifehacker.com/how-to-discover-your-authentic-self-and-live-the-life-1698115144 

P. (1960, June 24). Suppression of Positive and Creative Tendencies-Thought Processes. Retrieved October 14, 2017, from https://pathwork.org/lectures/supprssion-of-positive-and-creative-tendencies-thought-processes/

4 Easy Steps to Creating Healthy Communication About Sexual Intimacy

4 Easy Steps to Creating Healthy Communication About Sexual Intimacy

By Haley Hawks

I remember my very first day of preschool. My mother walked me into this huge building, gently settled me into a group of kids my age, and when I was looking away tried to slip quietly out. When I looked around for her a moment later I was scared to see that she was almost out the door. Panicked, I ran after her.

She did not turn me away and force me to go back. Instead she pulled me into her arms and returned with me. She set me down, reminded me that she was only leaving for a little while, and that this was school and how excited I was to be there.

Looking back on that experience now, I am grateful that my mother took the time to come back and explain again to me what was happening so I could better understand the situation I was in.

I know that many parents have experiences like this every day. But how do we begin to talk to our children about more serious things like pornography and sex? How do we create relationships with our children that allow them to come to us, instead of going to a friend? Here are some easy steps.

Talking to kids about healthy sexual intimacy:

Step one: Start Young

You want your children to be comfortable with you from an early age. It may be awkward to talk about topics like sex and pornography. But if you start young, then you will be comfortable talking about these things throughout their lives. In turn, they will feel better about sharing information with you. To make this process easier:

  • Teach anatomically correct names

  • Don’t be embarrassed by words like “penis” or “vagina.”

  • Relax! This should be an everyday conversation, not a big event.

  • Check out 30 Days of Sex Talks for ages 3-7, 8-11, or 12+ for simple, helpful conversation starters and practical information.

If you haven’t started young, that’s okay too. Just start wherever you are and build from there. A strong child-parent relationship can begin at any age.

 

Step two: Be The Source

Many children nowadays are turning to the internet or their friends to teach them about sex. Let your children know that you are the safest and most reliable source of information out there. Warn them that internet searches about sex can lead to pornography, and help them know what to do if that happens. Teach them to R-U-N away! “According to one study, 42% of children had been exposed to pornography in the past year and of those, 67% were exposed to it accidentally” (Enhancing child safety and online technologies, 2011).

The Internet is full of wonderful and terrible information.  Explain to your child that there is a right way to do research to find helpful sources of information, and then show them the sources that you trust. We want them to understand that we have their best interest in mind. To be the source you must:

  • Be willing to explain difficult or uncomfortable topics

  • Avoid judgmental statements

  • Build upon their knowledge

Remember children are naturally curious about their bodies. Their motive is not to make you feel uncomfortable. They simply want to learn.

 

Step three: Answer Their Questions

If you are going to be the source, you have to answer the questions. Your child might ask or say something that you makes you feel uncomfortable, but don’t freak out. It is important to answer questions so your child continues to see you as their trusted confidant. To help with this process:

  • Be calm

  • Be confident

  • Answer questions about yourself if your children ask!

 

Step four: Be Willing to Be Open

We are parenting in a different time than our parents did, and we need to understand that sex and intimacy our changing rapidly. With the prevalence of internet porn, sexting, and social media dating and sex are evolving quickly and parents need to be willing to address more than past generations–possibly at a younger age.

If your child comes to you with shocking questions that you feel are not “age appropriate,” don’t panic or turn them away. Wrap your arms around them, like my mother did on the first day of preschool. Talk to them! Try not to feel guilty about spoiling their innocence. Actually, the opposite is true. As we educate our children, we are protecting them.

When we make it clear to our children that we will talk to them about anything–no boundaries–we encourage them to come to us, rather than plunging down the wormhole of the internet and possibly encountering even more violent or pornographic material in an effort to answer a singular question.

If you want to learn more about improving communication with your child, please visit Educate Empower Kids or check out our book 30 Days to a Stronger Child for activities and wonderful discussion questions that will help improve communication and connection.

For amazing discussions about healthy sexuality, curiosity, sexual identification, anatomy, and more, check out our most popular resource, 30 Days of Sex Talks, available on Amazon.

Great lessons, quick and simple discussions.

 

Haley Hawks has a Bachelors of Science in Marriage and Family Studies from Brigham Young University-Idaho. She is passionate about learning, especially when it comes to relationships and family life. She hopes to one day be able to educate on a world-wide setting in regards to promoting goodness in the family, and the ideals that are destroying society.

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Citations:

30 Days of Sex Talks: Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy. (2015). Lexington, KY: Rising Parent Media.

Enhancing child safety and online technologies; final report of the internet safety technical task force to the multi-state working group on social networking of state attorneys general of the united states (2011). Portland: Ringgold, Inc.

 

3 Tips for Replacing Phone Time with Family Time

3 Tips for Replacing Phone Time with Family Time

 

By Courtney Cagle and Melody Bergman

We know it’s a problem. It’s so easy for teens–and now, even young children–to become glued to a phone. They crave the entertainment, connection, and stimulation that these devices can provide.

But there isn’t a magic age where the craving stops. As parents, we can struggle too. Just like kids, adults often feel the constant need to have phones by their sides and end up turning to them for comfort.

But how are these phone habits affecting our everyday life, our social relationships and our brains? The truth is that tech habits can easily evolve into harmful addictions, especially for our children. (If you believe that they do have an addiction, check out Helping Our Kids Overcome Tech Addiction.)

It’s time for us to strike back! We need to be intentional in our parenting if we are going to help our families create a healthy balance between tech use and real life. It will require hard work and active involvement, but it will definitely be worth it!

Here are three tips for replacing phone time with family time:

 

  1. Encourage physical activity after school. When your kids come home from school, engage with them, ask them about their day, help them with homework, and then get active! Go on a walk with them, play catch, or do some other physical activity that will give you time to talk to your kids and bond with them.

Physical activity also releases endorphins that will make both you and your kids happier (Domonell, 2016). Building healthy habits like this will help family members learn not to automatically resort to their phones when they need a pick-me up.

Also, if you are bonding and being active at the same time, you get the best of both worlds. It is so important to develop strong relationships. Your kids need to know that you are genuinely interested in their lives both online and offline. If they know that you care about them, they will be more likely to turn to you rather than their phones. They will look forward to spending time actively involved with the family, and so will you.

 

  1. Set boundaries regarding phone usage. Make rules with your kids regarding phone time, and make sure you follow the rules too! You may not think your kids are watching, but they are. And your example is more powerful than you may realize.

If you would like to create a media guideline, here is a great article to help you get started. Be sure to involve your kids in the decision-making process so they know that their voice is valued and heard. An example for limiting phone time might be to allow your kids 30 minutes on their phone each day. It could be from 5:00 – 5:30 p.m. or whatever time works best for the family’s schedule (King, 2018). Every parent is different and family rules will differ depending on the family. Create a custom plan that is just right for you.

 

  1. Create a list of screen-free activities. Kids often complain about being bored. Before that happens, take some time to compile a list of fun, screen-free activities they can go to.. You can come up with your own list, or check out this downloadable template. Make it your own and be sure to select activities that will be enjoyable for your kids. Ask them for input and put together ideas they will love!

Here are some examples of activities that families can do together:

    • Play a card game or board game
    • Put together a jigsaw puzzle
    • Play sports
    • Climb a tree  
    • Plant a garden
    • Play foursquare, kickball, tag, hide-and-go-seek, or other outdoor games
    • Cook a meal or bake treats
    • Draw, paint, sculpt, or make a craft
    • Read books or magazines
    • Visit friends or family
    • Ride bikes or scooters
    • Meditate or do yoga
    • Visit the library for storytime
    • Visit a museum on a free day
    • Go to the park
    • Go on a hike or picnic
    • Do free crafts or projects at Michael’s, Home Depot, or other stores

 

Activities like these have so many benefits! Among other things, face-to-face interaction leads to increased socialization and intelligence, which can help kids make more friends and develop their confidence (King, 2018).

There are so many ways to engage our families in activities that don’t include technology, but it requires you to be involved. Let your kids see that you care and you want to talk to them and do fun things with them. It will result in open communication and a great relationship. As we work together with our children to be more physically active, create boundaries around our phones, and brainstorm for fun alternatives, we can create a healthy balance with technology in our families!

Want more resources to teach kids healthy phone habits? Check these out:

Noah’s New Phone: A Story About Using Tech for Good, available for purchase here or on Amazon.

5 Ways Kids Can Use Smartphones for Good 

Parenting in the Digital Age: It’s Time to go on the Offensive 

10 Ways Kids Can Use Technology for Good

Positive Things We Can Teach Our Kids to Do on Social Media

Lesson: Kindness: Online, Face to Face, and Everywhere

 

Courtney Cagle is a senior at Brigham Young University-Idaho graduating in Marriage and Family Studies. She loves kids and wants to help create a safe environment for all children to learn and grow.

Melody Bergman is a mother and step-mom of three awesome boys and founder of Media Savvy Mamas. She is also a member of the Safeguard Alliance for the National Center on Sexual Exploitation and facilitator for the Virginia Alliance on Sexual Exploitation. Her mission is to motivate leaders and community members to educate and protect children and families.

There are affiliate links in the blog post. When you use them to make purchases, we thank you for supporting Educate and Empower Kids!

Citations:

Domonell, K. (2016, January 13). Why endorphins (and exercise) make you happy. Retrieved May 21, 2018, from https://www.cnn.com/2016/01/13/health/endorphins-exercise-cause-happiness/index.html

King, K. (2018, April 02). Helping Our Kids Overcome Tech Addiction. Retrieved May 18, 2018, from https://educateempowerkids.org/helping-kids-overcome-tech-addiction/

 

Body Image: Is it Mom’s fault or the Media’s?

Body Image: Is it Mom’s fault or the Media’s?

 

By Kami Loyd

Like most little girls, I grew up wanting to be just like my mom. I thought she was the prettiest, smartest, best person ever born. However, she didn’t feel this way about herself and it had a great impact on me that I didn’t quite understand until I was an adult. One of my earliest memories is my mom weighing food on a scale to help her lose weight on her new diet. I also remember my grandmother only eating a single piece of toast with a glass of hot chocolate so she wouldn’t overeat.

In my teenage years I developed a very negative body image that was in small part due to media portrayals of unattainable female perfection and in large part due to the many women in my life who had a negative body image.

Although the women in my life’s words said that I was pretty and healthy just the way I was, what I was learning from their actions was that if I was not perfect looking, I had no value as a person. Unfortunately, I carried this body image with me for years, until I met my husband who helped me to see past my negative body image and begin to appreciate myself inside and out.

Unfortunately, my experience is not unique. A study done by P.A.C.E.Y. found that some children starting as young as 3-years-old struggle with body confidence. The study also found that childcare workers had heard 31% of children label themselves as fat. The research also found that 47% children between 6-10 years of age have body image issues. Another online study found that 66% of teenage girls struggle with body image, and although the results for boys are better 30% of men ages 13-64 also struggle.

What can parents do to help our children, besides simply telling them they are attractive and/or healthy? Here is a list of helpful tips to help our children and ourselves as we struggle with body image.

Recognize when you are struggling with body image. Our children are much more likely to “hear” our actions, whether positive or negative, than to hear our words. Take this short quiz to see if you struggle with negative body image.

  1. Have you found yourself picking apart every picture taken of you, untagging yourself from a friend’s picture because you look “fat”, or even trying to avoid being in a picture all together?
  2. Do you choose clothes to hide all of your “bad parts” like your rolls, ugly toes, patchy skin, etc?
  3. Do you compare your body to models, your next door neighbor, your best friend, a family member and find yourself generally lacking?
  4. Are the thoughts you think about yourself and especially your physical appearance generally negative?

If you answered yes to any of these questions or even maybe, then you are probably struggling to some degree with a negative body image. Nicole Hawkins, PhD (n.d.)  has said “negative body image is a serious problem and has damaging effects on women’s self-esteem. It can lead to depression, as well as an eating disorder.

Changing our world starts with me. Self-love and respect, and the end of prejudice start with one person at a time.” If we are struggling with body image concerns we can acknowledge them and then work to overcome the problem in ourselves. One thing parents can do as they are striving to overcome their own body image concerns, is to set a family goal to live a healthy lifestyle then let your children help you accomplish these things by suggesting exercise ideas, helping create healthy menu options, finding healthy snack options for the whole family, etc. As parents and children work together, negative body image perceptions will begin to change.

Help your child understand the difference between a healthy lifestyle and the nonexistent “perfect body”. Bodies come in different sizes and shapes, and all can be attractive when properly cared for. The pamphlet Help Your Child Grow Up Healthy and Strong (n.d.) reminds parents, “make healthy eating and daily physical activity fun, to help children learn good habits to last a lifetime”(p. 3).

Teach your kids to have body gratitude. It seems that many children and teenagers embrace the notion that only one body type is desirable, which can lead to negative self body image. Yet if they are taught body gratitude, both of these children can learn to be healthy and happy. Parents can do this by having discussions aimed at helping children recognize what they can do. Asking questions to younger children like “what can your hands do that help you to be you?” or “what can your legs do that help you to move?” may need help discovering what their bodies can do such as walk, jump, color, play an instrument, etc . Older children can be engaged by discussing what bodies are  capable of doing regardless of physical appearance, such as having children when they are ready, which will help them to be grateful for their body.

Talk to your children about what they see and what they hear. Even if we are consistently modeling positive body image, our children receive messages from peers and media. To help parents do this, Educate and Empower Kids has some great resources including two books, Messages About Me: Wade’s Story: A Boy’s Quest for Healthy Body Image and Messages About Me: Sydney’s Story: A Girl’s Journey to Healthy Body Image, a lesson on Healthy Body Image, and the article 20 Ways to Compliment your Child that have Nothing to Do with Appearance. Using these resources, especially reading these books with children and trying out some of the discussion in the workbooks can help parents have meaningful, open conversations with their children about body image.

Consistently teach your children to love themselves. Showing our children in actions, words, and deeds that they are worth loving and helping them to discover that worth in themselves is essential! PBS’s The Whole Child (n.d.) declares, “How your children feel about themselves is one of your greatest responsibilities and biggest challenges. People who have a positive sense of self feel like they have something worthwhile to contribute and a sense of internal worth.”  Modeling positive self-talk can help our children learn to love themselves. Sometimes as parents we may not have the best positive self-talk, but we should practice consistently to help ourselves and our children. A great resource to teach children positive self-talk is the lesson entitled “Positive Self-Talk” in our 30 Days to a Stronger Child book.

As parents we have the opportunity to foster in our children a love of themselves, which can lead them to feelings of self-worth. Having self-worth will help them to understand their value, that they are unique and their perspective is as valuable as another person’s. Parents can do this by encouraging their child’s healthy habits and reminding them to not be as concerned with what the scale says as with how they feel. This will help their child to love themselves because they will understand their value isn’t based on a number but on what they can do.  

Although it may seem that having the “perfect” body is overemphasized in our culture, we can remind ourselves and teach our children better. The examples that I set for myself and my children matter because they are watching. Although I have just had a baby, I am seeking to set a good example for my children by teaching them how amazing it is that my body could grow and care for him, instead of worrying about losing the baby weight. As parents we have the responsibility to nurture our children’s self-worth. We don’t have to fit into society’s ideal, but we do need to teach our children to live happy, healthy, and productive lives.

Take time to strengthen your child! Available in Kindle or Paperback.

Kami Loyd received her bachelors of Marriage and Family from Brigham Young University-Idaho. She and her husband have been married for four years, and she is the proud mother of four children. Her interests include reading, board games, and most of all her family. She is passionate about helping her children and others find joy in family life.

There are affiliate links in the blog post. When you use them to make purchases, we thank you for supporting Educate and Empower Kids!

Citations:

Department of Health and Human Services, Department of Agriculture & Department of Education. (n.d.). Help Your Child Grow Up Healthy and Strong [Brochure]. Author. Retrieved November 3, 2017, from https://www2.ed.gov/parents/academic/health/growhealthy/growhealthy.pdf

Hawkins, N. (n.d.). Ways to Overcome a Negative Body Image. Retrieved November 03, 2017, from http://www.byui.edu/counseling-center/self-help/eating-disorders/negative-body-image

Miller, K. (2016, January 03). The Shocking Results of Yahoo Health’s Body-Positivity Survey. Retrieved November 03, 2017, from https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/the-shocking-results-of-yahoo-1332510105509942.html

PACEY. (2016, August 31). Children as young as 3 unhappy with their bodies. Retrieved November 03, 2017, from https://www.pacey.org.uk/news-and-views/news/archive/2016-news/august-2016/children-as-young-as-3-unhappy-with-their-bodies/

PBS. (n.d.). I’m Glad I’m Me: Developing Self-Esteem in Young Children. Retrieved November 03, 2017, from https://www.pbs.org/wholechild/parents/glad.html

Celebrating the Bests Dads: Fathers that Inspire Us to Be Better

Celebrating the Bests Dads: Fathers that Inspire Us to Be Better

By Kami Loyd

If I listed the plethora of amazing attributes of my dad, you would think I am exaggerating or describing a fictional character. Some may think “that’s nice” or “you’re lucky” and I agree that I am. But thankfully there is more than just one amazing dad in this world and I would like to introduce you to some of them so we can learn from them and be better parents.

The Balancing Father

One friend I asked commented that her dad and husband both had a way of interjecting into child vs. mother arguments without getting involved in the argument itself, while at the same time expressing that the argument was becoming disrespectful. Wise fathers have the ability to help family members recognize when they are being disrespectful of the other without resorting to abuse in any form. Alice Crider said, “Whatever form of discipline you choose, administer it with respect. Your child will learn nothing if you lose your cool. If you want him to be respectful, then you’ll have to model respect.” As fathers model respect, their children will see it and will choose to be respectful in return. Then the whole family will benefit just as my friends family has.

The Serving Father

Another friend talked about how his dad was always willing to serve others even when it was difficult or inconvenient. “He just serves others,” he said “family, friends, anyone. It doesn’t matter to my dad, he just wants to serve.” But why should we teach children to serve? Marilyn Price-Mitchell remarked, “one of the most important outcomes of [serving] for children is the potential to develop into more empathetic and caring young people.” Service is a quality that many parents want to teach their children because it fosters in them feelings of love, gratitude, respect, and caring for others. Emulating my second friends’ father will show our children the importance and value of service.

The Dependable Father

A third friend discussed how her father was always there for his children. She said:

“To this day he is the one person I know I can count on when I need help or an ear to listen…I can’t tell you what it means to me…to have him tell me he’s proud of the woman and more importantly the mother I became.”

Why is dependability important? Children need to know someone will always be there for them even when they make mistakes. Having a dependable father teaches them that there is always someone to have their back, help them as they deal with consequences, etc.

The Teaching Father

My first friend also commented how her father taught her. “I learned thing differently from a dad than a mom”. Most parents understand that each child is different and that teaching them all, in the same way is a futile effort. But it is also true that for different tasks, children may learn better from their dad than from their mom. Brett Copeland was quoted as saying “Fathers encourage competition, independence, and achievement. Mothers encourage equity, security, and collaboration.” Children need dads who teach them these important life skills.

The Perfect Dad

Each of my friends has had the perfect dad, just as I did, for them. The common element in all of these dads is that they engaged their kids. Yes, they all made mistakes in parenting and some took longer to learn the attributes I have described but each made an impact in their child’s life because they were interested, involved, and engaged. There are so many great dads around and at this time of year, we should celebrate them for who they are, what they teach and what we learn from their shining examples.

Ready to be one of these parents? Check out our book 30 Days to a Stronger Child for more information to help you raise capable, confident children

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Kami Loyd received her bachelors of Marriage and Family from Brigham Young University-Idaho. She and her husband have been married for four years, and she is the proud mother of four children. Her interests include reading, board games, and most of all her family. She is passionate about helping her children and others find joy in family life.

There are affiliate links in the blog post. When you use them to make purchases, we thank you for supporting Educate and Empower Kids!

Citations:

Crider, A. (2009, Aug. & sept.). Handling Disrespect. Retrieved December 29, 2017, from https://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/effective-biblical-discipline/approaches-to-discipline/handling-disrespect

Loyd, S. (2015, June 03). Why Kids Need Their Dads. Retrieved December 29, 2017, from http://www.parenting.com/article/why-kids-need-their-dads

Price-Mitchell, M. (2015, June 11). Grow a Child’s Empathy in 3 Easy Ways. Retrieved December 29, 2017, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-moment-youth/201506/grow-childs-empathy-in-3-easy-ways

 

10 maneras en que los niños pueden usar la tecnología para bien

10 maneras en que los niños pueden usar la tecnología para bien

Por Becky Farrin y Melody Bergman

¿Alguna vez ha visitado un gran centro comercial o aeropuerto con mapas altos del edificio y un pequeño punto con las palabras “usted está aquí” escrito al lado? Puede tardar unos minutos, pero una vez que encuentre su ubicación en el mapa, es mucho más fácil averiguar hacia dónde se dirige.

En la sociedad en línea de hoy en día, no existen tales mapas. El pequeño punto con “usted está aquí” todavía no existe. Nuestra tecnología nos hace sentir tan avanzados que ni siquiera nos damos cuenta de lo primitivos que somos con ella. Como padres y educadores, apenas estamos empezando a explorar las muchas opciones que la tecnología tiene para ofrecer a nuestros niños. “Como campo, sabemos mucho sobre el impacto de la televisión en el comportamiento y el aprendizaje de los niños, pero sabemos muy poco sobre todos los dispositivos digitales nuevos” (Donahue, 2012).

Es posible que no sepamos exactamente dónde estamos en esta sociedad tecnológica en la que vivimos, pero sabemos que la tecnología llegó para quedarse, y sabemos que el pronóstico exige más en nuestras vidas. Actualmente hay muchos argumentos sobre los efectos negativos de la tecnología en nuestros niños. Sin embargo, tenemos el poder de cambiar esto e inspirar a nuestros niños a usar la tecnología para siempre.

Aquí hay 10 formas en que los niños pueden usar la tecnología para bien:

Convertirse en ciudadanos digitales responsables. La ciudadanía implica un mayor significado de comunidad. Cuando nos consideramos “ciudadanos”, nos damos cuenta de que somos parte de algo más grande que nosotros mismos, que nuestras acciones afectan a los demás y que tenemos la responsabilidad de cómo tratamos a los demás. La misión de ser un ciudadano digital es enseñar a los niños a “respetar, educar y proteger” mientras están en línea (Ribble, 2017).


Vinculación con parientes lejanos. Con la capacidad de videoconferencias con familiares y amigos, niños de apenas dos años pueden reconocer abuelos y otros miembros de la familia, cantar canciones juntos, leer cuentos para dormir o compartir eventos familiares como cumpleaños. Permitir que las conexiones y recuerdos se hagan con seres queridos desde cientos de millas de distancia es definitivamente un beneficio en nuestra sociedad basada en la tecnología (Khurg, 2013).


Usar relojes inteligentes y wearables de manera responsable. Los dispositivos inteligentes como las pulseras digitales son ahora una tendencia entre muchos padres e hijos. No solo alientan a los niños a ser activos, sino que también les permite asignar tareas a los niños y otorgarles puntos de actividad. Otras opciones incluyen desafíos de actividad familiar y de amigos (Maslakovic, 2016). Algunos wearables tienen dispositivos de localización GPS que se sincronizan con teléfonos o computadoras y les permiten a los padres saber dónde están sus hijos y cómo encontrarlos si desaparecen (Papadimitriou, 2017).
Desarrollando músculos mentales. Algunas investigaciones indican que las aplicaciones y los juegos específicos pueden mejorar la capacidad de concentración de los niños. Otras aplicaciones ayudan a los niños a meditar y a concentrarse en la atención plena. Si estas aplicaciones hacen lo que dicen, no solo aumentan la potencia del cerebro, sino que pueden ser muy beneficiosas para los niños con problemas de ansiedad o déficit de atención. (Hasan, 2015).


Expresando creatividad Muchas aplicaciones les permiten a los niños expresar su creatividad con fotos, música, colorear, hacer voces divertidas o crear sus propias películas.


Preparándose para el futuro La mayoría de los trabajos de hoy requieren el uso de la tecnología Independientemente de nuestras ambiciones para nuestros hijos o sus propios objetivos, la tecnología probablemente será una parte de su carrera. Los niños que aprenden a escribir, comunicarse en una configuración en línea y tienen una comprensión básica de cómo navegar y solucionar problemas en línea pueden tener una ventaja real en la fuerza de trabajo.


Avanzando oportunidades educativas. La tecnología les permite a los niños acceder a una variedad de materiales de aprendizaje que incluyen desde letras y números, estados, ortografía y aprendizaje de nuevos idiomas. Algunos sitios, como k12.com, incluso permiten que los niños asistan a la escuela en línea. Los niños con necesidades especiales y otras discapacidades pueden beneficiarse especialmente de las aplicaciones y los dispositivos basados ​​en la tecnología porque ayudan a mejorar las habilidades de comunicación y cambian la forma en que los niños interactúan con los demás. La tecnología también facilita que estos niños se centren en temas específicos con los que pueden estar luchando (NAEYC.org).


Accediendo a libros y recursos escolares. Las bibliotecas en línea para niños hacen posible que los padres y sus hijos lean libros electrónicos y accedan a una variedad de recursos aptos para niños de forma gratuita. La mayoría de las escuelas promueven y alientan a los estudiantes a presentar tareas, buscar ayuda para realizar tareas o leer sus libros de texto en el sitio web de la escuela. Los estudiantes ya no tienen que preocuparse de llevar libros de texto pesados ​​u olvidarse de las tareas. Esto es especialmente beneficioso para aquellos niños que tienen arreglos de vida separados con sus padres (Egbert, M. 2014).

Sirviendo a otros ¿Sabía que usted y sus hijos pueden ayudar a los ciegos a ver? Una aplicación llamada Be My Eyes está haciendo eso posible. La aplicación utiliza video chat para conectar a los invidentes con los videntes a través de sus dispositivos móviles. Si una persona ciega necesita ayuda con una tarea en particular, puede conectarse con una persona que lo ve para pedir ayuda. Por ejemplo, si necesitan saber la fecha de vencimiento en un cartón de leche, pueden conectarse con una persona que lo ve a través del chat de video en vivo para ayudar a leer la fecha. (Algo como esto definitivamente requeriría la supervisión de los padres, pero es un buen ejemplo). Otro ejemplo del uso de la tecnología para el servicio es la genealogía. Con solo tocar un botón, los niños pueden acceder a sus antepasados, usar un software de indexación para ayudar a interpretar documentos antiguos, o incluso tomar fotos de tumbas con teléfonos inteligentes para sitios como findagrave.com. Podemos enseñar a nuestros hijos a usar tecnología para ayudar a otros. ¡Solo necesitamos encontrar las oportunidades!


Aprender (y enseñar) algo nuevo. Como padres, sabemos que cuando hacemos algo nuevo es mucho más fácil “mostrar” que “contar”, especialmente con nuestros hijos. ¡La tecnología es genial para esto! Ya sea que estemos explorando un nuevo idioma, probando un experimento científico, preguntándonos cómo es la “caca de ballena” (gracias, libro de entrenamiento para ir al baño, para hacer que mis hijos se lo pregunten), horneando algo divertido o fallando horriblemente en un oficio, la tecnología puede ser una gran herramienta para ayudar.

Con la supervisión de los padres, por supuesto, hemos aprendido cómo buscar video tutoriales, explorar Pinterest y descargar aplicaciones que nos ayudan a aprender todo tipo de cosas nuevas. Cuando éramos pequeños, teníamos que amontonarnos en el automóvil, conducir hasta la biblioteca y mirar libros para aprender todo esto. Ahora nuestros hijos lo tienen todo a su alcance. Nuestros hijos están conectados para buscar información de esta manera, y una vez que lo descubran, podrán enseñarnos a los demás padres y abuelos que podrían ser tan listos para acceder a estas cosas.

Si bien estas son todas las formas positivas en que se puede usar la tecnología, debe haber límites, por supuesto. No podemos enfatizar lo suficiente la importancia de monitorear, proteger y limitar el tiempo de los niños con la tecnología.

No se puede negar que vivimos en un mundo digitalmente saturado. Es tentador, como padres, insistir en el lado siniestro de la tecnología y temer el daño que causará a nuestros hijos. ¡Pero recordemos que también hay un lado poderosamente bueno! A medida que les enseñamos a nuestros hijos a usar la tecnología sabiamente, podemos inspirarlos a ser ciudadanos digitales increíbles y miembros contribuyentes de una sociedad digital.


Becky Farrin tiene una licenciatura en Comunicaciones con un menor en Desarrollo Familiar y Humano y actualmente está cursando una maestría en Consejería de Salud Mental. Le apasiona ser una defensora de la salud mental de los niños y las familias, crear conciencia sobre la prevención del suicidio y promover una comunicación sana en los hogares y las comunidades.

Melody Harrison Bergman es madre y madrastra de tres chicos increíbles, directora ejecutiva y cofundadora de SACTrafficking.org [http://sactrafficking.org] y creadora del blog MamaCrossroads.com [http://mamacrossroads.com ] Ella tiene una licenciatura en comunicaciones y ha estado escribiendo y editando desde 2002. Su misión es motivar a los líderes y miembros de la comunidad para educar y proteger a los niños y las familias. Sus experiencias como sobreviviente de abuso sexual infantil y ex esposa de un adicto al sexo brindan una perspectiva única para la lucha contra la pornografía y la explotación sexual.

Citaciones:

Donhue, Chip. (18 de diciembre de 2012). Ayuda tecnica Erickson en los niños. Obtenido de: http://www.erikson.edu/news/technology-can-benefit-young-children-when-used-appropriately-says-donohue/

Egbert, Megan. (20 de enero de 2017). 10 razones por las que continuaré regalando dispositivos portátiles a mis hijos. Megan Egbert. Obtenido de: https://hipmombrarian.com/2014/03/11/10-reasons-why-i-will-continue-to-give-my-children-handheld-devices/

Hasan, Heba. (11 de marzo de 2015). 9 aplicaciones de entrenamiento cerebral para hacerlo más inteligente. Tech Times. Obtenido de: http://www.techtimes.com/articles/38846/20150311/9-best-apps-to-train-your-brain.htm

El iPad y la unidad de distracción sensorial móvil ayudan en el departamento de vida infantil. (2014) Niños de Dayton. Obtenido de: http://www.childrensdayton.org/cms/site/7f0a8939b33e357e/index.html

Khrug, Jaime. (13 de noviembre de 2013). Si no podemos tener ‘Face Time’ al menos tenemos FaceTime. Correo Huffington. Obtenido de: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jamie-krug/if-we-cant-have-face-time-at-least-we-have-face-time_b_3916379.html

Maslakovic, Marko. (11 de abril de 2016). Top Fitness Trackers para niños Gadgets y Wearables.

Obtenido de: http://gadgetsandwearables.com/2016/04/11/fitness-trackers-kids/

Papadimitriou, Olga. (3 de febrero de 2017). Dispositivos portátiles de seguridad y GPS para niños. Safewise Obtenido de: http://www.safewise.com/blog/10-wearable-safety-gps-devices-kids/

Ribble, Mike. (2017) Nueve Temas de Ciudadanía Digital. Ciudadanía digital: utilizar la tecnología de forma adecuada. Obtenido de: http://www.digitalcitizenship.net/Nine_Elements.html

Rosen, Rachel. (2017). 9 maneras en que Internet puede ser bueno para sus hijos. Información para padres

Obtenido de: http://parentinfo.org/article/9-ways-the-internet-can-be-good-for-your-children

Steinberg, Scott. (20 de julio de 2016) 5 razones por las cuales la tecnología es buena para los niños. Parade Magazine. Obtenido de: https://parade.com/485609/scott_steinberg/5-reasons-that-technology-is-good-for-kids/

Tecnología y niños pequeños (edades 3 a 8) La Asociación Nacional para la Educación de Niños Pequeños (NAEYC). Obtenido de: http://oldweb.naeyc.org/about/positions/PSTECH98.asp

How to Create Healthy Relationships

How to Create  Healthy Relationships

Strong, healthy relationships are the foundation of society. Everyone has multiple relationships with family members, friends, acquaintances, work associates and others. And when these are unhealthy individuals may suffer. Relationships can become unhealthy from abuse, neglect, mistreatment, or apathy.

Teaching children how to build healthy relationships will enable them to recognize when a relationship is unhealthy, build healthy relationships, and allow them to help others to foster healthy relationships.

Children and adults have various relationships such as those between peers, teacher-student, parent-child, siblings, boss-employee, romantic partners, etc. A healthy relationship is one where both individuals are invested, caring about the other, and there is reciprocity of positive emotions, actions, and thoughts.

Within this lesson, you will find great discussion questions and a fun quiz to help kids determine what makes a healthy relationship and how to foster them.

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Looking for a fun, meaningful lessons  that will bring your family closer together? Check out 30 Days to a Stronger Child. Filled with discussion questions and activities, you create wonderful connections with your kids and help them build resiliency!

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