By Kyle Roberts, M.A.
This is the 3rd of four articles in our Parent Translation series. See part 1 for a list of the most common emojis used in sexting. for a list with definitions of the most common slang words used in texting. And check back as we will be adding information on common text codes.
**Trigger Warning**
The name of our organization says it all; we exist to Educate and Empower. We believe that through education and thoughtful communication, we can empower everyone with the tools necessary to successfully navigate today’s Internet culture–sometimes that education takes us into the darker realms of the Internet that most of us try to avoid. Avoiding these harsh realities won’t make them go away.
These terms in our Parent Translation series can be a little harder to take.
The words listed below with their definitions are focused specifically in the culture of pornography.
Often, pornographic videos or erotica use keywords to identify their content to appeal to specific users–some of those terms can be ambiguous or misleading. It might be necessary for you to use this guide as a reference to decode some of the terms you are finding in your computer’s search history or simply to increase your own understanding on the topic. Read on with caution; some of what you are about to read may be shocking.
Finding something like this on your child’s phone or in their online messages can be shocking. For more great tips on how to handle these or situations like these, look into more of our informative articles here. (https://educateempowerkids.org) We have also put together a book, 30 Days to a Stronger Child, that provides more information on this and other topics available . Oh, and don’t forget to check out our .
4k porn– Named for its 4,000-pixel horizontal resolution (four times the resolution of regular 1080-pixel HD), 4K is considered super high-def, detailed pornography.
Amateur— Pornography that is meant to look like the people involved have never been in a porn video before. It is often filmed in a person’s home and meant to look “low budget.” However, these videos are usually shot by professionals.
Anime— Animated porn, often with comic book or cartoon characters.
ATM — Anus To Mouth penetration.
BBC–Babe Blowjob Cumshot. Also refers to big black cock or “penis.” It’s used as a pornography genre and can perpetuate harmful stereotypes about black men.
BBW–Big Beautiful Women. Porn featuring large or obese women.
BDSM– Sexual practices of bondage, discipline, submission and sadomasochism, and role playing
BJA— Blow Job Artist.
BWC–Big White Cock.
Beaver Shot— Photo of a woman’s vagina
Bear--A term used by gay men to describe a husky, large man with a lot of body hair.
Furrie, furry–One who has the urge to have sex with someone who is dressed up as a furry animal.
Bukkake — Japanese term, which refers to several men masturbating and ejaculating on a single woman. The number of men can vary from a few to over a hundred, the object being to get as much ejaculate on the woman’s body as possible.
CFNM— clothed female, naked man
Cosplay— This is short for “costume play” and refers to the actors wearing costume of famous characters in movies, television, and fairytales.
Cougar–Porn where the woman or women involved are meant to look over the age of 35.
CP— child pornography
Cream Pie— pornography that shows ejaculation inside the man’s partner
Dirty— sexually adventurous
DP — Stands for Double Penetration, and it typically means having two different males’ parts inserted at the same time into a woman’s body.
Down-blouse— sexual imagery of looking down a girl’s shirt
Ebony—pornographic films involving at least one person of African descent usually a white woman with one or more black men.
Feminist Porn— Although this term sounds like the pornography would be empowering for women, it is porn that starts out with a woman in a position of power (a boss or supervisor), and almost always ends with the woman “enjoying” body-punishing sex from her partner.
Facial— a man ejaculating onto a woman’s face
Fluffer— a person the set of pornographic film, whose job is to make the actor erect when needed
Futanaria— pornography depicting hermaphroditism
Fisting — The act of putting a fist in a person’s vagina or anus using copious amounts of lubricant.
Group Sex — The act of sexual intercourse with multiple partners of varying genders at the same time. More than a threesome.
Gokkun– The act in a pornographic film where a woman drinks the semen (often of more than one man) from a glass or cup
Gonzo — A type of pornography in which the camera is acknowledged and often used by the actors to make the viewer feel like part of the scene. Gonzo porn took the storyline out of adult movies and headed straight for the sex. It is especially violent and degrading toward women involving choking, hitting, slapping, spitting, and vomitting.
Gape— A genre of pornography with gaping orifices (noun). The practice of keeping an orifice open, such as the anus, often to then urinate in it
Girlie Mag— A pornographic magazine
Hentai — Very sexually explicit animation or comic, such as Japanese anime.
Infoporn — Porn for information’s sake; watching porn for the educational aspect.
Interracial— Pornography where there is at least one person of color involved.
JOI– Acronym for jack off instruction or jack off instructor, porn videos made for the purpose of teaching how to masturbate
Kink — Unusual sexual tastes or preferences.
Lewd— A sexual photo or image
Lesbian— Although this term sounds like it is porn made for a lesbian audience, it is usually just two young women engaging in sexual activity and is usually made for a male audience.
MILF– Acronym for “mom I’d like to F#$@
Money shot— The climactic scene in a pornographic movie, and often includes ejaculation on a woman’s face
NSFW— Acronym that means, images that would not be safe to view at work
p0rn/pron— Both short for pornography, often mispelled on purpose in texts.
POV–Point of View porn where the camera is positioned close to the woman’s vagina and/or anus. This means you are in the position of a man actually receiving the sexual gratification depicted.
Rule 34 — A “rule” of the internet stating that for any conceivable thing or situation, pornography has been created that depicts it.
Sex Doll— Pornography involving a person having sex with a full-size or child-size doll that has a vaginal and anal opening.
Solo— A porn video where a single actor or actress masturbates
Scat— Pornography that shows defecation or ‘fecal play”
Scissoring— Also known as tribadism or tribbing. It is when two women rub their genitals against each other.
Step mom— Incest porn where it is made to appear that a teenage or college-age boy engages in sex with this step-mother. Other popular incest-related terms include step-sister and step-dad.
Smut— A promiscuous female
Spank— Pornographic material
Swallow— Porn where the woman (or man) swallows the semen of their partner(s).
Threesome— When 3 or more people engage in sexual acts.
Twink–Usually considered a homosexual male with attractive, boyish qualities, often 18-23 years old
Upskirt— A photo or image of a woman’s genitalia taken from underneath her skirt
Vanilla — Normal, unexciting, boring sex life.
VR Porn— Pornography that is created to provide a virtual reality experience for the user.
Ready to talk to your kids about online safety and healthy sexuality? Check out our books, ; How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography, which is also available in ; and .
Need Help with Tough Topics? We got you covered!Kyle Roberts has over 10 years of experience working with non profit organizations. She received her masters degree in community counseling from the University of Texas At San Antonio with an emphasis in addiction recovery. When she isn’t wrestling with her little boy she can be found teaching developmental psychology at BYU-Idaho or working on some DIY projects.