Translating Slang for Parents

By Kyle Roberts, MA

This is the 2nd of four articles in our Parent Translation series. See  for a list of the most common emojis used in sexting.  See part 3 for a list of porn specific terminology. And check back as we will be adding information on common text codes. 

It can be hard for kids to navigate life in the world today; being the parent of that kid can be even more difficult.  We have to be everything, know everything, and do everything. Where can we go for this information? How can we stay up to date? Some days it even feels like we are speaking different languages. At Educate and Empower Kids we hope to do all we can to make the greatest job in the world just a little bit easier. We put together this parent dictionary to help you as you strive to be more connected and aware of the world in which your children are growing up.

This second article in our Parent Translation series is a list of slang definitions. These are words you might be hearing around your house, seeing in your kid’s texts, or watching scroll past you on your social media feed, but you aren’t quite sure what they mean. Below is a list of those terms along with their definition.

AF-Short for the term “As Fu*K.” “That pic was crazy AF.” “That movie was scary AF.”

Baddie-  a female who can hold her own and take care of herself. Attractive, independent, successful 

Basic-An adjective used to describe any person, place, or activity involving obscenely obvious or ordinary behavior, dress, or action. “Sandra is so basic.”

Bae/BAE-Stands for Before Anything Else. Used as a term of endearment for a significant other, similar to baby, sweetie, or honey. “My bae treats me so good.”

Bean- Clitoris 

Bet – slang for “fa sho” which is slang for “for sure”. In other words it means sure or okay. “alright, bet, I’m down”

Body count-  How many people a person has had sex with

Bricked up- When a man penis is hard they are “bricked up”

Bruh- A casual nickname for “bro”

Bussin – when something, usually food, is really good. “this food is bussin” or “that was unequivocally bussin, respectfully”

Bussy-  A male’s anus or  butthole. The word butthole and pussy mixed together. 

Cap – a lie. present tense: capping which means lying. (No cap – no lie, not lying)

Cancelled – To dismiss something/somebody. To reject an individual or an idea. Usually when a public figure does something inappropriate, they are cancelled. “You’re cancelled.

Chad–A boy or man who is confident and attractive,  an alpha male

Cheater App-An app used to cheat on a significant other. Examples include Tinder, Tyger Text, and Snapchat to name a few. There are even a few articles encouraging their use.

Clap back-Same as come back, to return an insult. “Yo, did you hear Miley’s clap back after Nikki burned her!?”

Clouds- The vapor from your vape

Cooter- Vagina

Curve–To reject someone romantically

Clutch-Just right for the moment. Could replace just what I wanted. Also the ability to perform under pressure. “This gift is so clutch. Thank you!” “Lebron has to be clutch to win this game.”

Dad bod- Middle-aged man, typically one with children, who was once in shape and is no longer. Typically characterized by a beer belly. “Check out that celebrity’s dad bod.”

Down in the DM–Short for plans in their social media or texts for an oncoming sexual hook-up

Dick appointment- When a women makes plans to meet up with a man and perform oral sex

Double cheeked up- Someone who has a large butt

Fam-Super close friends. “I know he has my back; we fam.”

Femme- Feminine. Usually used to describe a feminine lesbian or a feminine gay man.

Fam– Casual nickname for friend or family member

Feels- Used to describe emotions that cannot adequately be described with words. “This post gives me so many feels.”

Flex – Showing off your valuables in a non-humble way. bragging, showing off. “That’s a new car? That’s a flex bro!” or “He straight up flexing!”

FOMO– Fear of Missing Out. “When I heard I had to work during the party next week, I had serious FOMO.”

Geekin’-Trippin’ on drugs

Get bent/ get sh$t on– Go away or get lost, said to someone who has just experienced some kind of misfortune. 

Getting my back blown out- The sexual act of a man inserting his penis in a women’s vagina from behind 

Glow up – A Glow Up is a mental, physical, and an emotional transformation for the better. Glow Ups can be both natural or planned. As well as being gradual and permanent, or fast and temporary.

GOAT– Acronym for “Greatest of all time!” sauce implies completeness.

Goated with the sauce-  Goated refers to a acronym G.O.A.T which stands for greatest of all time. With the To be goated with the sauce is to reach nirvana.

Gorilla grip- When a women’s vagina is tight

Gucci– Something is good or cool

Hella– Used to replace ‘very’ or ‘really.’ “That new movie was hella good.”

Helping him under the desk- When a women preforms oral sex to a man while he is sitting at his desk, usually while he’s playing video games

Heard-I heard what you said, I understand.

Husbando- A fictional boy or man (usually in anime, manga, or videogames) that they are sexually attracted to

HOT PIC- Hot Pictures as in sexy or naked

Hundo P– Short for 100% sure or certain

I’m weak– Short for “That was funny!”

Innit – isn’t it

Janky- Objects that are old or out of date or style. “My shoes are so janky.”

Karen – Middle aged woman, typically white, who complains and makes situations hard for others. “Stop being such a Karen.”

Low Key– A warning that what they’re saying isn’t something they want everyone to know

Lit– Something is really good or enjoyable. Also means intoxicated or high, regardless of the substance being used.

Le$bean or le dollar bean- Lesbian

Masc-  Masculine. Usually used to describe a masculine lesbian or a masculine gay man. 

Meal/Snack/Snacc-  Someone who looks good enough to eat

Mansplaining– A man explains something to someone, typically a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing. “My boss mansplained football to me.”

Manspreading– The act of a man spreading his legs when sitting on public transportation or in other public areas. “We were on the bus, and I couldn’t sit down because he was manspreading.”

Miss Rona– Coronavirus 

Mood– Used to express that something is relatable. Similar to ‘Same,’ but ‘Mood’

No cap– no lie, not lying

No chill– Not very responsible, doing something without thinking. Reckless. “Pedro was driving crazy last night; bruh has absolutely no chill.”

Netflix and chill- Euphemism for casual hook up. Going over to a friend’s house, watching Netflix, and having sex.“Do you want to come over and Netflix and chill?”

NSFW– Not Safe for Work. Usually used for posts that contain nudity, language, or other things you wouldn’t want someone at work to see if they saw your computer screen.“This article is NSFW.”

Noob– A person who is inexperienced in a particular activity

Nut-  Ejaculation 

No Nut November- When a man take a vow to not have sex or masturbate during the month of November

Obvi/Obvs– Short for obviously. “My crush doesn’t know I exist.” “Obvi.”

On Fleek– On point, sharp, near perfection. “Man, my hair is on fleek today.”

Okay boomer– An insult to older people who are misinformed about modern day concepts.

Out of pocket– when someone says or does something that is too far, inappropriate, crosses a barrier, stabs your in the back “You’re out of pocket for that.”

Periodt – When someone explains that they are done with something or someone at the end of their sentence. That’s the end of the discussion “Periodt sis!”

Pods– The small container used for e-liquid for your Juul (vape)

Postboned– when a person is running late due to an unexpected sexual encounter

Puebes- Pubes, as in pubic hair.

Roasted – To be utterly dissed, when a group of friends take turns making fun of eachother in a jokingly and friendly manner. “He’s about to get roasted!” or “Boom! Roasted!”

Salty-Upset or angry. “He has been acting salty since she broke up with him.”

Savage – Used to describe a person with no filter or to do/say something with no fear

Seggs- Sex

Senpei- The dominant sexual partner

Sip tea–To mind your own business (spill tea is to gossip or share juicy details about someone)

Simp– A boy or man who tries too hard to be noticed by a member of the opposite sex. They often make themselves submissive to this female in a way that makes other males feel embarrassed or ashamed of him.

Shredded, juiced, or jacked to the teeth-  An extremely muscular man or women 

Shade-Casual, underhanded insult. “Nikki threw major shade at Miley.”

Ship-Supporting a specific romantic union. Short for relationship. “I’d ship Ron and Hermione.”

Sh$t posting – ironically posting something on social media which to the average person looks just like a cringy or weird post conforming to a norm but it is intended to mock, insult or amuse.

Sic/Sick, Sickening- Something that is cool. Amazing, great

Sidechick– The other woman or mistress

Shlong- A large penis

Spill the tea – when one tells an especially juicy bit of gossip. “Spill the tea, sis” or “The tea is hot” meaning the gossip is new and shocking. “And that’s the tea!”

Skeet- Ejaculate

Slaps – something, usually food, is really good. past tense: slapped. “this s*&$ slaps”

Slay-To accomplish something, succeed, or do really well. “Dude, I slayed in the game last night.”

Slipping-To gang up on someone

Skurt–To go away or leave

Snatchchat- when a girl sends a naked photo of herself to someone she likes on Snapchat

Smash–To have casual sex

Spank Bank-Referring to memories of pornography, sexts, or other sexually stimulating material to be used for masturbation.

Sneaky link- A sexual hook up partner that you don’t want anyone to know about

Squad-A group of friends or a clique. “Me and my squad are tight.”

Straight fire–Something is hot or trendy

Sussy baka- Sussy is short for suspicious. Baka is Japanese for fool or idiot

Tap that/Hit that/Bang– To have sex with

Thicc- A buff or large boy or girl. Can also mean fat

Thirst trap-A  sexy or flirty photograph or video posted on social media with the intent to get likes and comments from the public professing their attraction. It’s to feed the posters ego.

Thirsty-Desperate. Anxious to get something, especially physical affection or sex, but can apply to other things. “These pics make me so thirsty.”

Thot-That Hoe Over There. “Check out the thot.” “This room is full of thotties.”

Tossing Salad-Anal oral sex

Turn up – party time, raise your energy and enthusiasm; get excited.

Turnt-When referring to people, this word usually means they are inebriated in some way, or they are just hyped up. When referring to an event, it means the event is fun, people are probably inebriated, and everyone is having a good time.

Waifu- A fictional girl or women (usually in anime, manga, or videogames) that they are sexually attracted to

Weeb- A person who is interested in anime, Japanese culture, and sometimes Hentai porn

Woke-Being aware and up to date on current affairs and social issues. “He is woke to the racial issues going on.”

Yassified-When someone or something has a glow up/makeover. Usually refers to a change admired or cherished in the LGBTQ+ community

YOLO-You only live once

YAS or Yaaaas-Something to express high levels of approval. “Did you love last night’s episode?” “Yaaaaaas!”

Yeet – To discard an item at a high velocity, to throw something fast. Past tense: yeeted. “They yeeted it across the field!”

If you have been having some experiences with your children using some of these terms, not to worry. We have a few ideas on how address it.

1. If you are hearing or seeing a word for the first time and it’s one you aren’t familiar with, come to our list and get educated. We live in a world where the media glorifies sex, drug use, and other behaviors we don’t want to find in our home; the days of turning a blind eye are over.
2. Stay calm. Take a deep breath. Acting from emotion is never a good idea. Allow yourself time to reach a place where you can address the topic without losing your cool.
3. Contemplate all the factors. Ask yourself, has my child been acting differently lately? Texting more? Speaking disrespectfully or pushing boundaries?
4. Determine if the behavior or usage of the language is something that is permissible in your home culture. Assimilate these definitions with your personal morals and ideas. Some of the words could be considered harmless, but it depends on your personal family needs.
5. Formulate a plan, speak with your co-parent, if possible, and create a plan to address it with your child.

For more great tips on how to handle these or situations like these, look into more of our informative articles here. Oh, and don’t forget to check out our .

Curious to learn more? Check out our books, ; How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography, which is also available in ; and .

Kyle Roberts has over 10 years of experience working with nonprofit organizations. She received her masters degree in community counseling from the University of Texas At San Antonio with an emphasis in addiction recovery. When she isn’t wrestling with her little boy, she can be found teaching developmental psychology at BYU-Idaho or working on some DIY projects. 

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