30 Days of Sex Talks
Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy For Ages 3-7
Additional Resources
- Our Amazing Bodies
“Positive Body Image Starts with Mom” from the Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
A great article that reminds us our kids are watching and listening to us. If we want our kids to value their bodies, we need to set an example for them.
“An Hour of Play Every Day: 77 Things to do Outside!” from EEK
This article talks about the benefits of playing outside with your kids, but also lists a lot of great ideas for what to do while you’re out there.
“Teach Your Child Body Gratitude” from EEK
This article goes through a few different ways to teach children how great their bodies are, and how they can show gratitude for them.
“Teaching Kids About Healthy Body Image: Tips from the Experts at Beauty Redefined” from the Educate and Empower Kids
Body Image experts Lindsay and Lexie Kite share their most valuable insights in teaching our kids how to appreciate their amazing bodies.
- My Body Belongs to Me
“Sexual Assault Awareness – Conversation Starters to Protect Your Children” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article provides parents with some foundational information regarding the frequency of sexual assault, and what they can do to help teach their children how to protect themselves.
“Kids and ‘Affection’: Why I’m NOT Teaching My Kids To Be Polite” from EEK
This article talks about teaching kids to speak up when they feel uncomfortable with unwanted affection.
“Lesson: Teaching Your Kids Healthy Boundaries” from EEK
This family night lesson was created to help teach kids the importance of boundaries and how they can trust their instincts to keep those boundaries from being crossed.
“Helping Children Develop Healthy Sexual Attitudes” from Educate and Empower Kids
Understanding the power of arousal templates and creating open dialogues in your home will help your child to not only develop healthy sexual attitudes, but build a satisfying sex life based in intimacy and connection.
- Male Anatomy
“Introducing Children to Anatomy” from the National Library of Medicine
This article talks about the benefits of children learning about their own anatomy, specifically through fun activities, and how it may make way for a healthier society.
“Lesson: Teaching Healthy Body Image to Boys” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
Knowing anatomically correct terms for bodies is so important to starting kids out with healthy body image. This lesson talks about how to continue teaching your boys how to have a healthy body image.
“Building A Better Body Image: 4 Ways to Boost Yours and Your Kids’ Self-Worth” from EEK
This article goes through a few ways to help you think better about yourself so that you will have the ability to boost your child’s self-worth as well.
“20 Ways to Compliment A Child That Have Nothing To Do With Appearance” from EEK
There are a lot of good things about our kids and we want them to know that! This article can help you show your kids what you love most about them.
- Female Anatomy
“‘The Talk(s)’: Start Off Easy” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article takes the reader through a few ways to ease into these crucial but sometimes difficult talks, such as curiosity, appropriate touch, and pornography.
“Inspiring Kids to Choose Their Own Body Image” from EEK
Knowledge about anatomically correct words helps kids be aware of their bodies and promotes a healthy body image. This article goes through a few more ways to teach kids about body image.
“Positive Body Image Starts With Moms” from EEK
More often than not, kids look to their moms for how to behave and treat themselves and others, so it’s crucial for moms to show them a positive body image from the start, which can be hard.
“The Powerful Role Dads Plays in a Child’s Life” from Educate and Empower Kids
Just as mothers play a vital role in their children’s lives, father’s play an equally powerful role in their children’s lives–that no one else can truly fill.
- Respecting Others
“Creating Rules and Boundaries with Your Family” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article includes a variety of tips and tricks that parents can use when setting boundaries for their children.
“Kids in the Digital Age: The Challenge of Expressing Emotions Healthily” from EEK
It’s so important for kids to learn how to treat themselves and others with kindness. This article has some great tips on how to start teaching kindness and emotional regulation.
“Sibling Rivalry: The Good, bad, and the In-between” from EEK
For those of you who have multiple children, here is an article about how to deal with sibling squabbling and everything that goes on with that. This will help you teach your kids that their feelings affect one another and themselves.
“Teaching Your Children Self-Respect and Respect for Others” from EEK
Something children must be taught is how to respect another person, and this can be a difficult lesson to teach. This article gives some insight on how to go about this.
- Public
“Talking to Kids About Public vs. Private Discussions” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
“Children are public creatures. They are not born with a sense of what should be discussed in private and what should not.”
“Talking To Your Child About Their Body and Private Parts” from Children’s MD
This article talks about how to discuss these kinds of topics with children, and what behaviors to expect and certain ages.
- Private
“From Awkward to Awesome: Talking to Your Kids about Sexual Intimacy” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This video discusses several strategies of how to talk about sexual intimacy with your kids, and how you can make it feel natural instead of awkward.
“Do You Know Where Your Kids Are Online?” from EEK
“The internet is an amazing place. Similar to a big, metropolitan city, there is so much to explore. In big cities like New York, there are museums, parks, concerts, Broadway, restaurants, and sites to see, but there are also areas to avoid.
“Lesson: Think Before You Speak, Post or Hit Send” from EEK
This lesson was made to help teach kids the ripples that they can make by saying or posting something thoughtlessly.
- Clothing
“Teaching our Kids Smart Clothing Choices and Modesty” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
The purpose of this family night lesson is to make sure your child understands how to make clothing choices that are appropriate for different occasions and to help them learn to respect their body and protect themselves.
“Modesty and Smart Clothing Choices: Teaching Our Kids to Be Seen for Who They Are” from EEK
“A smart clothing choice is one that ‘investigates’ the context where the clothes will be worn, and asks Who, Where, Why, What, and How. When our kids understand how to be smart about their clothes, they can choose clothing that is functional, comfortable, attractive, and even an expression of their personal style.”
- Good Touch
“A Family Night Lesson About Good Touch/Bad Touch” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
It’s crucial to teach your kids how to recognize good touch from bad touch. Teach in a way that builds trust between you and your kids, that will allow them to come to you.
“My Body is Mine: Teaching Kids Appropriate Touch” from EEK
This article gives some helpful suggestions on how to start the conversation with your child about what is a good touch and what is not.
“Lesson: Kindness: Online, Face to Face, and Everywhere” from EEK
This lesson is a great help in guiding you through teaching your little ones how to learn those basics.
In their future relationships, it’s crucial for kids to know how to protect themselves from a person who might pressure them into anything they are uncomfortable with.
- Bad Touch
“Helping Your Child Become the Master of Their Body Moving Beyond Good Touch/Bad Touch” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This family night lesson was put together to help you navigate teaching your child about the different kinds of touches, and what to do if they experience a “bad touch,” and how to avoid it as well.
“The Secret I Almost Did Not Tell” from EEK
This article talks of the personal experience a woman had with inappropriate touch as a child, and how she used that experience to learn how to protect her own child in the present.
“Child Predators: What Every Parent Should Know” from EEK
This video goes over a few tools that predators use, and how we as parents can counter these with knowledge.
- Predators
“A Lesson for Teaching Your Children About Predators” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
In this family night lesson, we outline how to proceed with a conversation to teach your kids about predators and what they can look for, as well as establishing trust between you so that they will feel comfortable coming to you if anything happens.
“What Online Predators Don’t Want YOU to Do” from EEK
This article goes through what to be aware of with online dangers that would draw kids into the reach of predators, then gives parents some good tips on how to deal with those dangers.
“Can You Spot the Grooming Behaviors of a Predator?” from EEK
This page goes through some of the common practices known as “grooming,” and how to look out for those and how they could be used on your child.
- How to Say “No”
“How to Identify A Child Predator Online” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article lists a series of terms, code words, and symbols that predators use to secretly identify themselves with other predators, and goes through what each means.
“Your Child Needs to Know: What is a Predator?” from EEK
“Before we can prepare our children to know how to recognize a predator, we must first be clear on what classifies someone as such. Here are some facts to keep at the forefront of our minds while keeping our children out of danger.”
- Your Instincts Keep You Safe
“Why the Best Way to Protect Our Children is to Prepare Them” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article talks of why there’s so much need to prepare and empower your children with knowledge that will protect them. We as parents can’t always be with them, so we must prepare them to protect themselves.
“For Parents: How to Have A Family Council” from EEK
This page teaches how to effectively have a family council. This is the perfect place to teach your kids how to trust in that gut feeling they may have when something doesn’t feel right.
- You Have Feelings and Emotions that Connect You
“Emotional Intelligence is Critical to Creating Strong Kids” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article discusses the importance of teaching children the value of emotional intelligence.
“Empower Your Child Today Through Positive Self-Talk and Affirmations” from EEK
This article goes through various ways to boost self-confidence and healthy feelings in your child.
“Emotional Intelligence: An Essential Skill in Our Kids’ Tech Saturated World” from EEK
This article talks about the importance of teaching our kids emotional intelligence, not just for their future relationships, but also for their protection and success.
- Romantic Love
“How to Create Healthy Relationships” from EEK
This page goes through a few methods that will help you teach your children what a healthy relationship should include and not include.
“Real Life Lessons Learned from Beauty and the Beast” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article makes some good points about the good and bad in media portrayals of romantic relationships, then lays out things you can teach your children to prepare for their own relationships in the future.
“Helping YOUNGER Kids (Ages 5-12) Shed Light on Fifty Shades Darker” from EEK
This article highlights 10 super helpful discussions you can have with younger children about love, relationships, respect, intimacy, and more.
“Managing Big Emotions Through Self-Regulation” from Educate and Empower Kids
This lesson guides parents in discussing the differences between what media show versus healthier alternatives of dealing with anger, sadness, frustration, and fear.
- Adults Who Care For You
“Five Great Ways to Bring Truly Open Communication to Your Home” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
Opening with a short, personal experience from the author, this article offers parents five ways that they can create and improve communication within the home.
“3 Ways to Improve Communication With Your Kids Now” from EEK
The best way to show your child that you care about them is communicating with them in a way that they can understand. This article goes through a few methods on how to be a better communicator with your kids.
“Resolve to Make Family Time Your First Priority” from EEK
Nothing shows your kids how important they are to you than actually showing them. Making time to spend together as a family will help greatly in showing your kids just that.
“Holding Family Meetings: A Necessity for Our Busy Families” from EEK
It can be difficult to prioritize family time when there are so many other things that need accomplishing as well. Here is a guide on how to do that for even the busiest of families.
- Where Do Babies Come From?
“Talking with Young Children about Sex” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article gives some great tips to explain sex simply and accurately.
“Common Questions Kids Ask About Sex (And How to Answer)” from EEK
This article gives some great tools about how to handle a child’s curiosity about sex, and how to give honest and understandable answers to these questions.
“How to Overcome the Trepidations of Talking to Your Kids About Sex” from EEK
This video goes through some of the fears you might have as a parent in having these conversations with your kids, and how to get through those in order to have productive and thoughtful sex talks with your kids.
“Common Mistakes Parents Make When Talking to Kids About Sex” from EEK
This article goes through a few different mistakes and how to avoid them as you’re starting out on these topics with your kids.
- We Change and Develop
“Talking With Your Kids About Puberty: You Got This!” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
Part of the discussion with growing up will absolutely have to be about puberty. Every kid will go through it, so it will help with their stress about it if they’re prepared and know that it’s normal and natural.
“3 Strategies for Building Resilient Kids in the Digital Age” from EEK
Along with your kids’ bodies growing, so do their minds. Helping them learn how to be resilient to the dangers of a digital age will help immensely in their normal mental development as well.
“Daily Rituals that Can Bring Your Family Closer” from EEK
Through activities like in this article, you can grow more comfortable increasing communication and comfort between you and your kids, assuring them that you’re there to help them understand themselves and the world around them.
- Other Words You’ve Heard
“Having the Sex Talks– When Kids Don’t Want to Listen” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
Contained in this article are some tips on how to proceed gently in a situation where your kids aren’t interested in listening or participating in an important discussion.
“Translating Slang for Parents” from EEK
This article lists some terms commonly used on the internet and what they mean, to inform you of what people online might be saying to your child.
“Commonly Used Emojis That Every Parent Should Know” from EEK
Similar to the above article, this lists specifically emojis and what they can represent online.
- Discovering Our Own Bodies
“This Expert Says to Teach THIS to Your Three Year Old NOW” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
One of the most important things you can empower your children with is the knowledge of their own bodies, how they work, and how to keep them safe. This article gives a few tips on how to do this with your young children.
“Why Do We Fear Talking With Our Kids About Sex? … And What You Can Do About It” from EEK
This article breaks down some of the reasons it could feel uncomfortable or scary to have such talks with our kids, and how to get past them.
“Talking with Our Kids about Masturbation—Without Shame!” from EEK
Learn about how detrimental it can be to bring shame into any conversation about sex and our bodies, and how to address this tricky subject without it.
- Affection
“Bodily Integrity: Teaching Your Child to Make the Best Choices for His or Her Body” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
Having body integrity is useful in so many regards including body image and how to protect yourself. It is also crucial in interpersonal relationships for kids to understand what kinds of affection they are comfortable or uncomfortable with.
“Kids and ‘Affection’: Why I’m NOT Teaching My Kids To Be Polite” from EEK
This article briefly goes into the author’s personal experience of abuse, and how she decided to teach her kids about affection. One of the points made is about if a child should not be forced to be affectionate if it makes them uncomfortable.
“Talking with Young Children about Sex” from EEK
This article gives a few pointers on how to approach this subject with young children, and provides useful tips such as what points to remember, simplified definitions, etc.
“How To Raise A Bully” from EEK
This article goes through a few things that can lead to a child learning the wrong things and becoming a bully, often without meaning to. It goes into how to avoid these things to teach children how to be kind and considerate of others they interact with.
- Play
“An Hour of Play Every Day: 77 Things to do Outside!” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article gives good ideas on what kind of games to play that are helpful for development and interaction.
“The Danger With Using Screens As a Digital Pacifier” from EEK
“In the digital age where we are surrounded by screens it is important that parents take a step back and ask themselves if we’re using these screens as an emotional crutch for our children.”
- How are Boys and Girls Alike?
“Ways to Empower Children Regardless of Gender” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article goes through a few different on ideas how to teach feminism in it’s true form to your children and how to empower them with the knowledge that they are unique and special whether they are a boy or a girl.
“Teaching Our Kids Body Gratitude: A Critical Skill in Our Image-Saturated World” from EEK
“We need to teach our [kids] to be confident, happy, and self-assured no matter what kind of body they are living in.”
“Understanding Gender Identity Terminology: A Guide for Parents” from EEK
“Whether you agree with the idea of choosing one’s gender or not, it is helpful for every parent to keep up with the concerns, trends, and shifts in societal norms and language.”
from Educate and Empower Kids
This article provides helpful tips for parents on how to use response questions: what they are and how they can help you simply and effectively answer your child's questions.
- Friendships
“For My Kids: The Perfect Garden or Online Friends and Face-to-Face Friends” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article makes a metaphor of life being a garden, with online friendships as flowers and in-person friendships as fruits and vegetables. There can be beauty in the flowers, but there is more substance to physical closeness.
“Teach More Than ‘Charity’ This Season, Teach Your Kids Empathy!” from EEK
One of the most important things children will learn through friendships is how to treat another person. This article gives some good tips on how to cultivate empathy in your children for all those future relationships.
“Lesson: Standing Up Against Bullying” from EEK
This family night lesson is intended to help children learn to stand up for themselves and others around them when faced with bullying.
- My Body Poops and Pees!
Everyone Poops by Taro Gomi
A simple, straightforward book for children that discusses how every animal and insect on earth does, indeed, poop.
- Pornography
“A Lesson About Pornography- for ages 3-7” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This is a simple family night lesson guide for parents about pornography that is tailored specifically for children ages three through seven.
“Helping Young Children Avoid Porn Addiction” from EEK
One of the most dangerous parts of pornography is how it so completely rewrites the brain. This article goes through the different ways it negatively affects the brain, and thus the relationships a person has with others and with self.
“Preparing Yourself to Talk to Your Child about Porn” from EEK
This article goes into some ideas on how to take action and prepare to educate your children on this difficult topic.
“Ten Reasons Why You Need To Talk To Your Child About Porn” from EEK
There are many reasons to talk to your kids about porn, and this article lists ten of the most important.
“Protecting Kids and Teaching Them to Use Tech for Good” from EEK
In this short video, Dina Alexander shares ways that parents can educate their children about pornography and using technology to make the world a better place.
- Pictures
Petra’s Power to See: A Media Literacy Adventure from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
Join Petra and her dad as they venture around the city to learn about media, how to understand its messages, and how to choose media wisely.
“Raising Strong Kids in a Porn Culture” from EEK
In this seminar, we discuss simple habits and conversations to build resilience in our children and teens, such as showing our kids how to fill their physical, intellectual, spiritual, and social “accounts,” teaching them how to understand media and navigate our tech-saturated world.
“Why A Family Tech Detox is Just What the Doctor Ordered” from EEK
This article goes into the ways that both physical and emotional health is affected by too much screen time, and how to help detox as a family.
“5 Family-Saving Limits to Set With Screen Time” from EEK
This article includes five ideas on how to avoid excessive screen time that can be damaging to family relationships.
- Phones and the Internet
Noah's New Phone: A Story about Using Technology for Good from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
A great family night book featuring a poignant story that addresses smartphone rules, online bullying, social media, and more.
A Family’s Guide to Digital Media from EEK
This guidebook was created to assist you and your family in finding a media balance by providing you the tools and information you need to create your own family media usage plan.
“Basic Tools for an Internet Enabled Family” from EEK
This article goes through several tools and ideas on how to keep your family safe as the internet is used in your home.
Kid-Friendly Alternatives to Smartphones: Taking the Smart out of Smartphones” from EEK
This article lists some alternatives to smartphones that will not allow for the access to the whole internet, but will allow us to contact our kids and know that they’re safe at any given time.
“3 Tips for Replacing Phone Time with Family Time” from EEK
There are many ways to engage as a family that don’t include technology. This article lists a few ways you can encourage that with your children.
- Nudity
“Teaching Without Shame: Understanding Your Child’s Curiosity” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article talks of the importance of distinguishing between pornography and art, and how to teach a young child that curiosity is normal, but they also need to be respectful of others’ privacy as well.
“Be Your Child’s First Choice for Sex Ed –Instead of Google” from EEK
This article goes through some of the ways you can dissuade this impulse to google over having your kids ask you directly.
“How to Make Your Home a Safe Space” from EEK
There are many different ways to make a space safe, be it physically, emotionally, etc. This article gives an overview of the different ways to do this, especially from online threats.
“Bodily Integrity: Teaching Your Child to Make the Best Choices for His or Her Body” from EEK
This article offers parents a variety of tips on how they can teach their children to love and respect their own bodies in a culture that would demand otherwise
- I Am Beautiful and Strong
“5 Ways A Mother Can Develop Self-Worth In Her Son” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
“Mothers have a huge impact on their sons’ emotional development. We can help them become healthy, productive, and secure men by promoting their sense of self-worth.”
“Learning Positive Self-Talk” from EEK
This family night lesson is a great start to help your kids understand the power of their internal dialogue.
“Healthy Body Image: Your Kids Deserve It!” from EEK
This article includes great advice to help you teach your child to have a more positive body image.
“Teaching Our Kids Body Gratitude: A Critical Skill in Our Image-Saturated World” from EEK
“The idea that thinness is the standard for beauty is everywhere! We need to teach our daughters to be confident, happy, and self-assured no matter what kind of body they are living in.” Here are three things you can implement to help your child!
