30 Days of Sex Talks
Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy For Ages 12+
Additional Resources
- The Physical Side of Relationships
“Helping Children Develop Healthy Sexual Attitudes” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article gives some helpful tools for parents on how to teach kids to develop healthier relationships with themselves and their growing sexualities.
“7 Questions to Help You Get Closer With Your Teenager” from EEK
This article talks of a few different ways for us as parents to connect with our teenagers and show them that we truly care for them, their interests, and their lives.
“My Body Is Mine: Teaching Kids Appropriate Touch” from EEK
This lesson is just as important for teenagers as it is for young children. Help your teen understand truly what is appropriate and inappropriate touch so that they may be empowered with knowledge that will help keep them safe throughout their lives.
- Sex
“8 Ways to Start Talking to Your Child About Sex” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
It can be difficult to talk to your child about sex, but it is a completely normal part of life. Read this article for more suggestions on how to talk to your child about sex.
“Let’s Talk About Sex: Talking to Teens & Tweens About Sex” from EEK
This video goes through a few tactics on how to approach not only the subject of sex, but also how to navigate the various other sources that sexual information may come from (i.e., school, social media, the internet, etc.)
- Emotional Intimacy
“Intimacy Education Vs Sex Education” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article provides a perspective on how sex education goes beyond the physical aspects of the act. The article also encourages parents and guardians to put the topic of sex within the context of relationships and religion.
“Beyond the Sex Talks: Teaching Teens Emotional Intimacy” from EEK
This article is a wonderful resource to teach teenagers and children about emotional intimacy and the importance of valuing themselves.
“10 Ways to Help Your Teen Take Back Their Emotions From Tech Distractions” from EEK
This world is more and more tech-centered, and being so engrossed in technology has a negative impact on each of our emotions. This article goes through ten different tips on how to subvert that, especially for teens.
“Sex Ed Isn’t Just for Kids” from EEK
This article gives some advice on what Sex Ed should be and what kids and adults should understand about a healthy sex life.
- Sex Means Different Things to Boys and Girls
“Don’t Have ‘The Sex Talk’ With Your Child—Have Many!” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article speaks to parents who are worried that they are too late to have the sex talk and reminds them that it is important to have many talks about sex with your children.
“8 Dangers of Sexting—and What Parents Can Do” from EEK
In this article, we go through what sexting is, how damaging it is to all involved—especially when girls shoulder the blame for sending and boys do not for asking—and what we as parents can do about it.
“Is the Media Teaching Your Kids About Sex?” from EEK
There are many ways in which sexual content in disguised as age-appropriate, especially with the prevalence of media and internet use now. This article lists a number of places where there is hidden sexual content for kids to find.
“8 Things Your Daughter Needs to Hear From YOU” from EEK
“Whether we are talking about the birds and the bees, pornography and her developing brain, or her soon-to-arrive monthly visitor, there are things your daughter needs to know you know.”
- Positive Aspects of Sex
“Did I Wait Too Long? Starting the Sex Talk With an Older Teen” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article offers tips for getting the conversation started with older kids and how to keep that conversation going.
“Talking With Your Teen About Sex” from EEK
This article includes pointers and definitions about sexual terms and how to talk to your teenager about sex.
“4 Easy Steps to Develop Unhealthy Sexuality” from EEK
This article satirically lists things you can do as parents to instill bad habits and unhealthy ways of thinking in your kids. Ultimately it shows what not to do and not to teach to raise mentally healthy children.
“Does Talking About Pornography With Your Kids ‘Give Them Ideas’?” from EEK
This article talks about the importance of giving information and being that source of information for your kids.
- Physical Responses to Sex
“Helping Children Develop Healthy Sexual Attitudes” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article is a resource meant to help parents talk about sexuality with their children. It provides helpful tips and pointers as parents talk about arousal and other common feelings.
“4 Easy Steps to Creating Healthy Communication About Sexual Intimacy” from EEK
This article will help you and your children create healthy communication habits that will make the sex talks easier.
- Orgasm
“Common Mistakes Parents Make When Talking To Kids About Sex” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article points out four common mistakes that parents make when it comes to opening the door for healthy conversations about sex and body image.
“Common Questions Kids Ask About Sex (And How to Answer)” from EEK
This article covers some of the most common questions that kids have about sex and intimacy (including orgasm) and how to answer them confidently.
- Relationship Boundaries
“Lesson: Teaching Your Kids Healthy Boundaries” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This family lesson offers a guided approach to teaching your kids about building and maintaining healthy boundaries.
“Creating Rules and Boundaries With Your Family” from EEK
This article provides a definition of boundaries and lays out how you can implement them in your family.
“Text-Dominant Relationships: A Social Norm that Is Killing Meaningful Teen Relationships” from EEK
“A deeper sense of empathy and emotional connection can only be nurtured face to face and are needed to build strong and loving relationships.”
“For Parents: How to Have a Family Council” from EEK
This lesson goes through ways to have a meaningful and uplifting family council, where you will be able to connect and communicate.
- The First Time
“Five Great Ways to Bring Truly Open Communication to Your Home” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
Communication is a crucial part of parenting, and this article provides ways to improve communication with your children.
“How to Overcome the Trepidition of Talking to Your Kids About Sex” from EEK
This video goes over a few points on how to have those scary sex talks with your kids and how to ease any anxiety to reduce that fear or apprehension.
- Consent
Lesson: Talking to Your Kids About Consent from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This lesson teaches about the importance of not giving into unwanted attention and ensuring that everyone receives respect.
“Consent: Not Actually That Complicated (Clean Edition!)” from EEK
This article breaks down just how simple consent really is by using the analogy of making someone a cup of tea.
“Peer on Peer Abuse: Why It Happens and What Parents Can Do” from EEK
In this video, the reasons for peer-on-peer abuse are discussed along with solutions on how to stop this before it becomes a problem.
- Creating a Healthy Relationship
“Preparing Our Kids for Courtship in the Digital Age” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
It is important for our children to know the different aspects of a relationship and how one develops a relationship.
“How to Create Healthy Relationships” from EEK
This family lesson is a great place to start in discussing how to create and develop healthy relationships. It also speaks about the importance of having and maintaining those healthy relationships.
“Kids in the Digital Age: The Challenge of Expressing Emotions Healthily” from EEK
As children learn to express their emotions healthily, they will be learning how to create better and healthier relationships.
“Kids and Dating in the Digital Age” from EEK
This video goes through a few of the challenges of dating in the digital age and ways to help kids figure out how to navigate it all.
“6 Great Activities to Help You Communicate With Your Teenager” from EEK
With the knowledge that communication is the key to all healthy relationships, this article goes through a few ways to improve your communication with your teenager
- Abusive Relationships
National Domestic Violence Hotline
This is a web page with numerous resources available, including great definitions and explanations for abuse that occurs in dating and other relationships.
“Real Life Lessons Learned From Beauty and the Beast” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This helpful article discusses counterfeit messages our kids receive about relationships and how to combat their ill effects.
“The Fifty Shades Effect: Disempowerment of Young Girls and What We Can Do About It” from EEK
This article talks of the different damaging messages portrayed in Hollywood and in movies our kids might view, as well as countermeasures against those messages.
“Online Bullying: What to Do!” from EEK
“As parents, this is something we must have on our radar, as it is likely our child will either be the victim of cyberbullying, have a friend who is being bullied, or be a bully themselves.”
- Self-Worth and Sex
“8 Things Your Daughter Needs to Hear from YOU” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
Written for mothers to their daughters, this article lists the top eight things that every daughter needs to hear.
“5 Ways a Mother Can Develop Self-Worth in Her Son” from EEK
Written for mothers to their sons, this article lists five things that can be done to help improve self-worth.
“5 Things a Father Can Do to Increase His Daughter’s Self-Worth” from EEK
Written for fathers to their daughters, this article talks about five things that fathers can do for their daughters to improve their daughters’ self-worth.
“Taking ‘Hotness’ Out of Your Kids’ Self-Worth Equation” from EEK
This wonderful article teaches about how children are worthy of love and so much more without worrying excessively about how they look.
- Liking Yourself
“Lesson: Learning Positive Self-Talk” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
In this family lesson, parents have the opportunity to teach and practice using positive self-talk with their children.
“Empower Your Child Today Through Positive Self-Talk and Affirmations” from EEK
This amazing article explains the importance of positive self-talk and provides examples of affirmations that parents and children can use.
“Self-Harm: A Major Concern for Parents in the Digital Age” from EEK
This article talks from a parent’s personal experience with a child. It expounds on how to recognize self-harm and what the best methods of dealing with it are.
- Body Image and Sex
“Teaching Our Kids Body Gratitude: A Critical Skill in Our Image-saturated World” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article offers detailed suggestions for how parents can help teach their children about body positivity and how they can help boost their children up.
“Inspiring Positive Body Image in Kids in a Social Media Age” from About Progress
This podcast episode discusses how parents can encourage positive body image at home.
“Building a Better Body Image: 4 Ways to Boost Yours and Your Kids’ Self-Worth” from EEK
This article goes through different problems that many people have with self-esteem and includes tips on how to counter those, for both parents and kids.
“Helping a Child Who is Overweight Have a Positive Body Image” from EEK
Similar to the above link, this article goes through a few strategies on how to increase a healthy body image in children who are already struggling with it.
- Being Media Savvy
“Media Literacy II: Teaching Kids How to Deconstruct Images” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
In this family lesson, teach your kids to deconstruct media messages, so they can avoid the pitfalls of low self-worth when comparing themselves to false advertising and social media messages.
“Media Literacy: Ads Sell More Than Products to Our Kids” from EEK
This article talks about the different techniques ads tend to use to sell products and also manipulate how consumers feel about themselves and said products. It then talks about how to help your child not fall for the tricks of advertising.
“Creating a Media Guideline for Your Family” from EEK
“A media guideline is a great tool for protecting your family from online dangers and excessive usage of devices.”
- Pornography
“Signs and Symptoms of Porn Addiction in Kids” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
Here is a helpful article which lists some of the signs that your child might be struggling with pornography.
“A Lesson About Pornography—For Ages 12+” from EEK
This is a great family lesson to further teach children about the dangers of online pornography and how to best prevent and combat it.
“Why Anti-Porn Is Not Equal to Anti-Sex” from EEK
This article goes through the different reasons why being against porn doesn’t mean being against sex.
“How to Get Kids Off Anime and Other Sexualized Media” from EEK
Here are 8 tips to help you and your partner tackle concerns about hyper-sexualized media your children may be exposing themselves to.
“Ten Reasons Why You Need to Talk to Your Child About Porn” from EEK
It’s a tough topic, we know, but this article explains many of the reasons it’s so necessary to talk to kids about what porn is, how damaging it is, and how to avoid it.
- Masturbation
“Talking With Our Kids About Masturbation—Without Shame!” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
“Masturbation should not play a major role in your child’s life, either as a source of relentless guilt or as a frequent and persistent habit that displaces healthy sexual relations in the future.”
“Talking With Our Daughters About Masturbation” from EEK
Masturbation is an important topic that needs to be addressed with both boys and girls. This article goes into how to do so, specifically with your daughters.
“Masturbation and Kids—Moving Beyond the Shame!” from EEK
A personal story is shared about a girl’s experience with masturbation and the shame that she felt. She tells how she recovered and worked through the feelings of shame.
- Shame and Guilt
“Three Mistakes I’ve Made Using Shame and Guilt” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article describes some of the ways we may inadvertently teach our children to associate shame and guilt with body image and behavior.
“Teaching Without Shame: Understanding Your Child’s Curiosity” from EEK
This article helps parents understand how to be calm and handle their children’s curiosity without having them feel embarrassed.
“Stop the Mom Shame! Three Ways We Can Be Kinder to Ourselves” from EEK
Shame can affect us all, especially moms who feel the pressure of raising kids in every way we feel they need to be, but this mentality negatively affects both us and our kids.
“For Survivors of Sexual Abuse: How to Talk to Kids About Healthy Sexuality” from EEK
This article goes through a few different tactics a sexual abuse survivor could use when teaching healthy sexuality to kids, and talks about how much shame thrives in secrecy.
- Sexting and Social Media
“6 Reason Why Kids Sext” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article goes through the various reasons why a teenager would sext, including things such as maturity and safety.
“Social Media and Teens: The Ultimate Guide to Keeping Kids Safe Online” from EEK
This lesson walks you through how to set guidelines with your kids on social media in order to keep them safe from online dangers.
“Lesson: Talking to Your Kids About Sexting” from EEK
“Chances are, your child will encounter this at some point in their life, either by unwittingly receiving a sext or feeling pressured to send one or actually sending one. This is why it’s so important to talk to our kids about this growing and dangerous trend.”
“Lesson: Uplifting Others Online and Everywhere” from EEK
This family lesson helps kids to understand the importance of being kind both online and in person.
“Lesson: Teaching Our Kids Social Media Etiquette” from EEK
“Teach your child the necessary manners associated with social media. Emphasize to them that as they practice and implement proper behaviors in their online lives, they will better understand the importance of using social media as a tool for good.”
- Sexual Conversations
“Lesson: Think Before You Speak, Post or Hit Send” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
“Our words and posts create either positive or negative ripples, or small waves of change. They can influence others’ perceptions, our own thinking, and the future course of our lives. Once we say something, it can be very hard to take it back; when we post something online, it is permanent.”
“Lesson: Teaching Our Kids to Be Positive in Their Communication Online and In-Person” from EEK
This family lesson is intended to help kids learn to develop greater communication skills both in person and online.
“Is My Child Sexting? What Every Parent Needs to Know” from EEK
“Parents need to take a proactive role in teaching their children the appropriate use of technology and what their kids should do if they receive an inappropriate text or message.”
“Teaching Our Kids: Your Online Actions Always Matter” from EEK
This article talks about how to teach your children that there are consequences to their actions in many forms than just what they can see. Understanding this is key in every interaction with others.
- Sexual Identification
“Starting Conversations With Your Kids About LGBTQ Identities” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
“It is important to teach through behavior and conversation that treating others with respect is critical to our communities. This will lead to more tolerance and safety for all people no matter their identity.”
“Because the most important lesson about sexuality? Is that it is yours. It is personal and unique, and still healthy and normal.”
“Understanding Gender Identity Terminology: A Guide for Parents” from EEK
This article goes through the various different terms regarding LGBTQI and explains what each means.
“Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner Now” from EEK
This article goes through a few different ways to handle a coming-out situation with compassion and kindness.
- Unwanted Sexual Attention
“What Online Predators Don’t Want YOU to Do” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article discusses just how likely it is for children to encounter a predator, how it can happen, and what parents can do to protect their children.
“How to Identify A Child Predator Online” from EEK
This article defines the various acronyms and terms used online that identify and describe sexual identifications, including those used by pedophiles.
“Peer on Peer Abuse: Why It Happens and What Parents Can Do” from EEK
In this video, we talk about peer-on-peer abuse and what we as parents can do to prevent it.
- How Predators Groom Kids
“The Secret I Almost Did Not Tell” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
The author tells of her personal experience with abuse and how she learned to teach her own children what to look for and what to avoid to protect themselves in the future.
“Child Predators: What Every Parent Should Know” from EEK
This shows an Instructional video to help parents identify and protect children from predators.
“Protecting Special Needs Children From Unwanted Sexual Attention” from EEK
This article goes through a few more ways to help educate and protect your child with special needs from people who would take advantage.
“Simple Ways to Protect Your Child From Common Abuse in the Digital Age” from EEK
Here are some more examples of how predators may find access to your children, what to look out for, and how to prevent such contact.
“Sex Talks and Sexual Assault…” from EEK
Though we wish no children would ever go through it, sexual assault happens frequently. If this has happened to your child, here is a compassionate and gentle approach to having those crucial sex talks with them.
- Monogamy Vs. Multiple Partners
“15 Things I Want My Son to Know About Love and Sex” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article offers a mother’s perspective on what critical information she wants her own son to know about love and sex.
“15 Things I Want My Daughter to Know About Love and Sex” from EEK
A mother’s perspective on the best information her daughter should know about love and sex.
“For Parents: How to Have a Family Council” from EEK
This family lesson helps you learn how to create a situation where you will be able to have these important conversations with your children.
- Sex in a Committed Relationship vs. Hook-up Sex
“‘Are You Having Sex?’” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
Listed in this article are a few less awkward ways to approach the topic of sexual activity with your teen.
“I Was a Teenage SLUT” from EEK
This article tells a cautionary tale of poor self-esteem and social pressure, and what to do to avoid situations like this
- The Double Standard and Derogatory Terms
“Sex Talks for Daughters” from Media Savvy Moms, March 2020
This is a podcast featuring Educate and Empower Kids discussing what important sexual topics you should talk about with your daughters.
“Translating Slang for Parents” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
This article contains a list of commonly used internet slang to help parents understand what certain phrases or acronyms mean.
“Parent Dictionary: Search Engine Terms” from EEK
This article also goes through a list of terms and abbreviations for inappropriate or popular language used on the internet, way too many of which are derogatory terms for women and their anatomy.
“Porn Addiction Is Not Just a ‘Boys’ Problem’ Anymore” from EEK
Pornography is a rampant problem for all ages and all people; this article goes through a few ways to help your daughters if they’ve grown addicted to this dangerous substance.
- Sex Under the Influence “Talking With My Children About Rape” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
It’s important not only to talk to your kids about rape, but to talk to them early enough that the information can come from someone who loves them.
“3 Practical Suggestions to End Victim Blaming” from EEK
A start to ending rape culture is to end victim blaming, and this article goes through helpful and practical ways to do that.
- STDs and STIs “Sexually Transmitted Disease Surveillance” from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC
The CDC provides more information, data, and statistics on STDs and how to prevent them.
“Adolescents and Young Adults” from the CDC
This page provides links to videos and other resources about how to talk to your child about these topics and gives more information on STDs.
- Birth Control
“4 Easy Steps to Creating Healthy Communication About Sexual Intimacy” from Educate and Empower Kids (EEK)
The best way to help your kids stay safe sexually, physically, and emotionally is to have healthy relationships with solid communication between parent and child. This article can help give some tips on how to establish those.
“7 Steps to Take to Establish Yourself as an Approachable Parent” from EEK
This article goes through some helpful tips on how to let your kids know you are trustworthy and approachable and that they can come to you about anything.
“Holding Family Meetings: A Necessity for Our Busy Families” from EEK
Knowing how to hold a family meeting where all can share and relate to one another is one of the best ways to open those lines of communication, and this article can help you do that.
“From Awkward to Awesome: Talking to Your Kids About Sexual Intimacy” from EEK
Talking to your kids about sexual intimacy, including STDs or contraception, doesn't need to be awkward. It can be a helpful, meaningful experience. Learn what you need to talk about and how to talk about sex with your younger and older kids.
